• cog2019 posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 32 minutes ago

    A couple things that worked for me (I always drank as I cooked dinner) was to have a fancy alternative beverage, to just not cook, or to do another activity that got me out of the house. I know #2 and 3 aren’t possible for everyone (at least all the time).

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 33 minutes ago

    That would be hard – especially if you feel like she is normally the accepting one. Can you figure out anything else that might be making you crave a drink?

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 34 minutes ago

    Sending positive thoughts to you and your family. End of life with someone is so hard, but gives us so many opportunities too. I am so grateful I had that time with my dad when he passed, and hope it is the same for you.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 36 minutes ago

    You can do it. I know what works is really individual, but I have a lot of those same triggers. I mix a kombucha I like with seltzer in a nice glass and for some reason it seems to help. How old are the kids?

    • Thank you! They are 13, 10, and 3. So I took the 3 year old with me to feed the pigs and then the older two watched him while they were all outside. I am doing ever so much better than I did when they were 10, 7, and 1 and I just couldn’t escape the nightly whining and fussing and they were too young to be left unattended.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 37 minutes ago

    Hurray! Congratulations.

  • cog2019 posted an update 4 hours, 39 minutes ago

    I have been away for a while visiting my mom. It has been quite a ride. I have been AF for over a month now and it is working for me. Some days have been a challenge but most have gone pretty well. The easy days have been due to some unpleasant circumstances (keep reading) but the one most challenging day was interesting. I took four days to…[Read more]

    • Congrats on living the sober life! I get the nature thing. I was alone and relaxed walking next to a pond on a beautiful autumn day and thought no one would know if I had a bottle of wine. I didn’t but hit a meeting first thing the next morning and shared that. They all nodded knowingly. Just another experience to get through sober and next…[Read more]

    • Well done at setting boundaries with your mom, not everyone can do that with someone who is that close to them! Funny how something as serious as a DUI can be a positive but I definitely see how it is in this situation! Good luck with your mom and congratulations on being AF for over a month!

    • I’m wishing you and your mom a healthy, happy, lifelong, empowering, enriching recovery. Hey, that sounds pretty good–I’ll take one, too.

    • Wow you are doing so well not grabbing for that wine given the circumstances. Good on you.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    I am so glad you will be able to be there for him AF, and I am glad he is going to be ok. One of my motivations for going AF is my older teen son as well. I didn’t stop early enough, but I hope I will set an example now, and I am in a much better place to talk to him about all of the downsides of alcohol. Good luck.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Proud of you for staying strong yesterday and today. And I am so happy to hear that you had a supportive co-worker. That counts for a lot.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    It is tricky when we change and then we have to see our (and others) old behavior in a new light. If you don’t think he is going to change and you don’t want to withdraw from the friendship, I think your idea of going out of town is a good one. Maybe that way he will stay in a hotel downtown and not drive and put others’ lives at risk.

    • Good on you for helping your friend and even more good on you for deciding not to stick around for it next time 😊👍🏼

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Just want to send you some positive vibes and say that you have already helped and inspired others. You are doing great. Feeling like you are not being good enough might be the alcohol brain trying to get back in control, if it can convince you to feel that way maybe you will drink in order to feel better. Tell it NO.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Thank you so much. I am going to use this for my meditation tonight.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Wow. That is a powerful story and I am so happy for you.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Love this.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Hurray. I am so glad it is working for you. I enjoy it too and even 5 minutes before bed seems to help my sleep (although of course some of that is not drinking).

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Welcome@emarnel!

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Welcome! We are glad you are here.

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Your post made me laugh, something I really needed. Thanks!

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Hurray for your special drink. I do kombucha and soda water and it has definitely helped somehow (I guess the habit part of having something in my hand).

  • cog2019 posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    I can’t tell you whether this is a relationship that can be fixed or not, but I can tell you that I strongly believe in your ability to handle this, to stay AF, and to come out better on the other side.

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