God being sober today is really great. It's taken a lot of hard work fighting that demon drink. I've moderated here and I've moderated there. I've fallen backwards a number of times but with huge effort I've managed to get myself mostly back on track each time. ONE of the biggest things that has really spurred me on to end my love affair with the bottle is remembering those utterly shameful boozy 'fun' and sometimes not 'fun' occasions that now really make me cringe to think about. SOBER DAYS are here to stay and the old saying "better late than never rings so true. Ahh!!! finally.
Yes, I’m just getting back in to it too after being overseas for several weeks. It takes a bit to reorient but once you start reading the Sober Stories and the members feed it, doesn’t take long before, you’re feeling right at home. Ata po ki a koe Treehugger.
So sorry for your loss watergirl. I didn’t drink when my mum was in her last days of life and I’m forever grateful to have had those moments of purity with her before she passed. Good on you for your strength throughout🙏
Beautifully said agirl. Just verging on 300 days, go you👍You are so right…. sober life is amazing. I’m sitting on 489 days and I still pinch myself, the enormity of being free of that stuff gets right in to the core of your soul. I love the bit about growing up….They say that when you drink the way we did, you get stuck in an age void. I reckon that’s so true. Congrats on your huge achievement💖
Some up and at ’em posts @ro and @janus…..Love your grit ladies. I’ll be a few months in China visiting my son again (visa, all going well that is) so I loved reading your posts and of course all of them….Will miss being on here but on the other hand, can’t wait to see my son too. Love ya all, take care, see ya when I get back moi moi moi. A year sober on March 15 but I wont be here……365 days wahooooooo xoxoxoxo
Well lets just say a HUGE congratulations right here right now!!!!! AWESOME achievement @cinderella a really solid foundation you got going there. Take care travelling. See you when you get back and can’t wait for stories 🙂
Ka pai to that @ro.. keep laughing your head off, this world sorely needs it. OMGeeee to the oysters, straight out of the shell, I’m droooling. So bloody dear up here!!! Enjoyyyy. Actually, I’m going to treat myself…..good move👌
They are expensive down here too. But I’m going to treat myself. I can’t do them raw though ( yes I know travesty ) I can easily throw a doz cooked ones straight down the hatch. I used to live on Stewart Island. I HATE paying for kai moana. Oh well keep my country working said as crying opening wallet lol have a great day @cinderella 🙂
Sometimes it’s really cool just taking time out to catch up on here reading all the stories that affect us here on living sober. There’s the sad and the happy and there’s the downright hilarious. There’s the solutions, the inspiration and the encouragement. But most all there’s that special thing called ‘ understanding’. That’s something we all share….Rock on 😊
That’s good ol’ South Island hospitality @Prudence. I do know the weekend will go well, no matter, how many will join you👌 Glad to hear that last weeks ‘feelings’ have been checked and you’re back to being ‘you’. Have a wonderful day, it’s grey but really cool right now, here in Tamaki Makaurau. Ma te wa 💖😃
A lovely feeling of power to overcome those urges. I hope I never feel comfortable enough to go with it. Never want to lose the magic of being free ever again, well, at least, not for tday or tmoro. Good on you @kit😊
Hi @tim….when I was visiting my bro who was in hospital for 4 months, I started getting hooked on cafe latte’s, cakes and squares. Made me feel real uppity. I dug in deep and managed to kick the caffeine fix, struggling a bit with the side dishes of sweets tho😂 …I’m grateful it’s not alcohol, that’s for sure. Peace to you.
Wow, that’s a treat within itself @suek. I imagine the wine industry should be getting very worried about this by now lol. If we added all of our money up together well, they ought to be nearly bankrupt by😂
Nice one @kit. A sober broken sleep is so much more bearable than a drunken one. It is truly the greatest feeling to be able to just slip back into sleep without regrets and shame and all of the rest of the negatives that there once was💖😃
I must get that book @robynb. Love her to pieces. Just finished reading Tina Turner’s bio and it was really amazing. Both very strong women with quite different career paths for sure. You’ll be longing for some warm days😃
@mari135. You are the last person this hurt should be touching. Don’t doubt yourself, something just went a bit awry along the way. Your too giving and understanding to let this get you down. We loves you heaps and this place would not be the same without you💖
Ohhh thanks so so much Cinderella….oxoxoxoxo That really meant a lot to me….. I think what got to me was I opened up about feeling hurt about how she talked to me about a specific topic that causes me lots of pain due to the past, and I felt I was safe to request that. I did not expect she would do what we call DARVO…..”Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.” I remember using this term a lot when I worked with DV victims…and in some ways it feels a bit similar…just a wee bit….But instead of getting compassion and a wee change in her behavior (I asked to please just not bring up this one single topic when I am around anymore)….I got attacked and she went behind my back to tell another friend how over the top and harsh my emails were…..When I read my friends my emails just to check….he said he’s seen her do that with so many other people and in so many situations…so that was a relief….But I still feel guilt. And also this disbelief…this is who she REALLY is.
Its just such an encouraging place to share in and it helps me to be honest with myself and about my struggles which is a huge part of my recovery. Letting my husband know about the extent of my problem with alcohol was huge for me and hearing others’ honesty here drains the pain shame brings with it. Thanks for sharing!
@Morgan, crikey lovely…..there is a truly strong person living within you, otherwise, how could you encumber yourself with this ‘stuff’ each day. If not for being wonderfully sober, it would be pretty difficult eh!!! Peace to you for the weekend💖
Hello @nessibnzl. If you start to feel compromised are you able to log on here quickly. Just letting us know how you are and what you are feeling, could that make a difference to you, do you think? This place is pretty cool. I came on this site about two years ago. I have now been alcohol free, sober, call it what you will, for nearly a year now thanks to all the great support and resources Mrs D has provided for us all on this Living Sober site. Please stay tuned in, we’ve got your back lovely💖
I love your post @abettertomorrow. Why?… because it reminds me why I don’t wish to drink alcohol anymore. Thank you for the poignant reminder. I love the way I breathe now and I love the way my heart is so relaxed these days. I used to wake up in the morning and apologize to my ‘organs’ for punishing them and then promise them I wouldn’t put them through that crap ever again. Well it took a few ‘agains’ before it started to kick in to my brain that, I really meant it. Get sober honey, it’s so so so worth it, and your lovely, beautiful organs will love you for it❤💖💕
Ohh yes, those cravings… great you let the moment pass! It really and truly does get easier and better in every way when you swat those thoughts quickly away from your ‘space’ @ridge. The first month up your sleeve….how cool is that eh!!!!😃👍
Wow!!! @iowadawn I can feel those great vibes from here😃 500 days and a 10 mile run and able to eat guilt free, life is good, very very good without that ‘sucks’ bottle of wine!!! lol. Huge congrats to you today👍👌❤ and yes… We’d be lost without google for sure