• Cinderella posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Yes, I’m just getting back in to it too after being overseas for several weeks. It takes a bit to reorient but once you start reading the Sober Stories and the members feed it, doesn’t take long before, you’re feeling right at home. Ata po ki a koe Treehugger.

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    So sorry for your loss watergirl. I didn’t drink when my mum was in her last days of life and I’m forever grateful to have had those moments of purity with her before she passed. Good on you for your strength throughout🙏

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Beautifully said agirl. Just verging on 300 days, go you👍You are so right…. sober life is amazing. I’m sitting on 489 days and I still pinch myself, the enormity of being free of that stuff gets right in to the core of your soul. I love the bit about growing up….They say that when you drink the way we did, you get stuck in an age void. I reckon that’s so true. Congrats on your huge achievement💖

  • Awesome to be back and reading up on all the goings on in our Living Sober world😃👌 Nice to see!!! 💖

  • Cinderella changed their profile picture 2 weeks, 3 days ago

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Awesome thanks @Winner💖 Looking forward to it, that’s for sure.

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @ro, going to be kia kaha so that there are no temptations in my way, !!😃😃😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Lol @ro. Yummmmmy. I’ll see you all when I get back from China. They better give me my visa, hell son is so looking forward to seeing me and me seeing him. ma te wa

  • Some up and at ’em posts @ro and @janus…..Love your grit ladies. I’ll be a few months in China visiting my son again (visa, all going well that is) so I loved reading your posts and of course all of them….Will miss being on here but on the other hand, can’t wait to see my son too. Love ya all, take care, see ya when I get back moi moi moi. A year sober on March 15 but I wont be here……365 days wahooooooo xoxoxoxo

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Ka pai to that @ro.. keep laughing your head off, this world sorely needs it. OMGeeee to the oysters, straight out of the shell, I’m droooling. So bloody dear up here!!! Enjoyyyy. Actually, I’m going to treat myself…..good move👌

    • They are expensive down here too. But I’m going to treat myself. I can’t do them raw though ( yes I know travesty ) I can easily throw a doz cooked ones straight down the hatch. I used to live on Stewart Island. I HATE paying for kai moana. Oh well keep my country working said as crying opening wallet lol have a great day @cinderella πŸ™‚

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    How awesome you are lovely. I’m chasing your 678 and it’s worth it xoxoxox

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Congrats on Day 42 @truthangel. Think you’re being hard on yourself. Maybe only think of the past if it can help you go forward otherwise, as DaveH says, force yourself back to the ‘present’ πŸ™‚

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    4 weeks, love it. Know the feeling of getting that ist month under the belt, that’s for sure πŸ™‚

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    120 days, that’s fantastic. How hard that would have been to achieve after having had five years without. You go girl:-)

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    That’s actually really scary @suek. That instant feeling is exactly the feeling I and other’s never want to experience again!!! Ever xx

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 4 months, 4 weeks ago

    wow!!! Go well @mari135. All the very best for a positive outcome…you are so so strong❤❤

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    Good on you @dragonfly. An obstacle course for sure. Big congrats to you and a gold medal for reaching the end πŸ™‚ An awesome month of AF that no-one can take away from you!!

  • Sometimes it’s really cool just taking time out to catch up on here reading all the stories that affect us here on living sober. There’s the sad and the happy and there’s the downright hilarious. There’s the solutions, the inspiration and the encouragement. But most all there’s that special thing called ‘ understanding’. That’s something we all share….Rock on 😊

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Nice, cheerful and upbeat, love your posts as always @Tim. Have an action packed and fab day👌😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Ditto….hope it goes well too @april πŸ™‚

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    That’s good ol’ South Island hospitality @Prudence. I do know the weekend will go well, no matter, how many will join you👌 Glad to hear that last weeks ‘feelings’ have been checked and you’re back to being ‘you’. Have a wonderful day, it’s grey but really cool right now, here in Tamaki Makaurau. Ma te wa 💖😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Welcome @sammy1980. Try to make the most of this site, it’s amazing what you can get out of being here πŸ™‚

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    A lovely feeling of power to overcome those urges. I hope I never feel comfortable enough to go with it. Never want to lose the magic of being free ever again, well, at least, not for tday or tmoro. Good on you @kit😊

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Good for you @awolken. There’s a great mix of us on LS, that makes for a wide range of experiences and suggestions. Welcome😊

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Love the sound of your garden @ro. Must go and see Mary Queen of Scots. Don’t go to the movies that much now with netflix!! Mlss the chocolate and nut coated icecream lol😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @tim….when I was visiting my bro who was in hospital for 4 months, I started getting hooked on cafe latte’s, cakes and squares. Made me feel real uppity. I dug in deep and managed to kick the caffeine fix, struggling a bit with the side dishes of sweets tho😂
    …I’m grateful it’s not alcohol, that’s for sure. Peace to you.

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    What an awesome compliment @janus. I love the colour thing too….Ohh and that’s a long time in the pool!!! I’d have turned purple in 20 minutes…..not pretty for me unfortunately lol😂

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 33 is great news @noelle. It aint easy to start Day 1 let alone get over the 1 month mark. Rock on👍

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Wow, that’s a treat within itself @suek. I imagine the wine industry should be getting very worried about this by now lol. If we added all of our money up together well, they ought to be nearly bankrupt by😂

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Nice one @kit. A sober broken sleep is so much more bearable than a drunken one. It is truly the greatest feeling to be able to just slip back into sleep without regrets and shame and all of the rest of the negatives that there once was💖😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    I must get that book @robynb. Love her to pieces. Just finished reading Tina Turner’s bio and it was really amazing. Both very strong women with quite different career paths for sure. You’ll be longing for some warm days😃

    • Oh, I love Tina! Years ago I saw an early release of the movie about her. Is there a new book? I used to work for a women’s shelter and totally admire Tina.

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Stay strong, we’ve all been where you are today. It isn’t easy but it really does get easier, believe it. 3 days is a great start😃

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Good for you @jsac. 95 Precious days, don’t want to blow that listening to that silly little voice in your ears👍

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    @mari135. You are the last person this hurt should be touching. Don’t doubt yourself, something just went a bit awry along the way. Your too giving and understanding to let this get you down. We loves you heaps and this place would not be the same without you💖

    • Ohhh thanks so so much Cinderella….oxoxoxoxo That really meant a lot to me….. I think what got to me was I opened up about feeling hurt about how she talked to me about a specific topic that causes me lots of pain due to the past, and I felt I was safe to request that. I did not expect she would do what we call DARVO…..”Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.” I remember using this term a lot when I worked with DV victims…and in some ways it feels a bit similar…just a wee bit….But instead of getting compassion and a wee change in her behavior (I asked to please just not bring up this one single topic when I am around anymore)….I got attacked and she went behind my back to tell another friend how over the top and harsh my emails were…..When I read my friends my emails just to check….he said he’s seen her do that with so many other people and in so many situations…so that was a relief….But I still feel guilt. And also this disbelief…this is who she REALLY is.

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    I love that a ‘stumble or a sprint’. Yep it’s pretty cool here:-)

    • Its just such an encouraging place to share in and it helps me to be honest with myself and about my struggles which is a huge part of my recovery. Letting my husband know about the extent of my problem with alcohol was huge for me and hearing others’ honesty here drains the pain shame brings with it. Thanks for sharing!

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yep @sara1988, watch the complacency but, well done you for being pro-active with regard to the psychotherapist:-)

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Early afternoon 🕓for us in Aotearoa, NZ @kit. Enjoy your peppermint tea, your book and let sleep come peacefully to you. Goodnite x

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Awesome post @Tim. Always so refreshing. Peace

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    @Morgan, crikey lovely…..there is a truly strong person living within you, otherwise, how could you encumber yourself with this ‘stuff’ each day. If not for being wonderfully sober, it would be pretty difficult eh!!! Peace to you for the weekend💖

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hello @nessibnzl. If you start to feel compromised are you able to log on here quickly. Just letting us know how you are and what you are feeling, could that make a difference to you, do you think? This place is pretty cool. I came on this site about two years ago. I have now been alcohol free, sober, call it what you will, for nearly a year now thanks to all the great support and resources Mrs D has provided for us all on this Living Sober site. Please stay tuned in, we’ve got your back lovely💖

    • yes I will be on here. I need help and I want others to know how awful this disease is.. I also need to know I am not alone

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    I love your post @abettertomorrow. Why?… because it reminds me why I don’t wish to drink alcohol anymore. Thank you for the poignant reminder. I love the way I breathe now and I love the way my heart is so relaxed these days. I used to wake up in the morning and apologize to my ‘organs’ for punishing them and then promise them I wouldn’t put them through that crap ever again. Well it took a few ‘agains’ before it started to kick in to my brain that, I really meant it. Get sober honey, it’s so so so worth it, and your lovely, beautiful organs will love you for it❤💖💕

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    Ohh yes, those cravings… great you let the moment pass! It really and truly does get easier and better in every way when you swat those thoughts quickly away from your ‘space’ @ridge. The first month up your sleeve….how cool is that eh!!!!😃👍

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    Wow!!! @iowadawn I can feel those great vibes from here😃 500 days and a 10 mile run and able to eat guilt free, life is good, very very good without that ‘sucks’ bottle of wine!!! lol. Huge congrats to you today👍👌❤ and yes… We’d be lost without google for sure

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    Loyal and true @janus2. A big loss❤ RIP dear Fatbum xox

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    good on you @tim. Peace

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 5 months, 4 weeks ago

    Yes I love this saying too because it is so true @reginald. Yes cooking was a good excuse for me too!!!

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Hey poor puppy that sounds so so painful. Get well and @ro, get some much needed sleep😊

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Cool post @mrdee.

    • Thank you @Cinderella I’m coming back to LS more and documenting the little things that are helping me to change my ways of consuming alcohol needlessly. Life is feeling better without it!

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Good and strong. Keep it up and I love that ‘keeping your self-compassion strong’ because you are so right we do have to be mindful of ourselves too, we sure do @frog

  • Cinderella posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    173 days, 173 very special days @aprilaries. lol😊 I married the last person I dated and that was nearly 43 years ago now!!!!!!

    • Oh wow, @Cinderella congrats on 43 years!! I won’t be wearing boozey googles this time around so I’ll be well equipped to look out for all those red flags when dating!!

  • Load More