• Chica posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Amazing!! Good on you

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 1 year, 4 months ago

    Yep get a coin for your 90 days that’s an amazing achievement!

  • Chica posted an update 1 year, 4 months ago

    Hi everyone

    Hardly ever on here these days but worth a check in. I’m 2 weeks away from two years sober and it’s really something.

    My orange box says 713 days and I’ve not spent (won’t say saved!) $12.5k that would have gone down my throat!
    It’s not always easy but it is possible

  • Chica posted an update 1 year, 8 months ago

    654 days sober today wowsers!!

    I’m boiling eggs for brekkie and it SO reminds me of my drinking life. I left 2 eggs in a pot on the stove and was so hungover I left for work and forgot about them. The neighbours rang the fire sept as there was smoke billowing out the windows and they broke the door down. My life was unmanageable!!

    I put my success down to AA and listening to what was said. I haven’t had a drink since April last year and my life is amazing

    • No more boiling the pot dry huh. Brings to mind the time my youngest daughter had a sleepover and I was so drunk I forgot about the cheese toasties in the oven and despite my daughter telling me the oven was on fire I just replied well turn it off. She was so upset with me. At the time I told her it was no biggie but I still feel the shame every now and then. I was so worried her friends would tell their parents I was a drunk and so tempted to tell them not to. I could have put all of their lives in danger. Jeez that still stings.

    • 654 that is so great well done

    • @Chica – congrats on 654 days!!! You are an amazing testament of what AA and hard work can do. xo

    • Congratulations on 654 days @chica 🙂 🙂

    • @chica I love the “my life is amazing”. Such an inspiration xx

    • Ohhhhh so many frozen pizzas I have tried to bake that met their demise in my oven over the years……. Glad you were able to enjoy your eggies and sobriety today!

    • You’re awesome @chica!!

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Sounds amazing well done you!

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Morning all
    Only a sober person would be awake at 0530 on a Saturday morning haha

    My tally says 428 sober days today wow. In AA they tell you that things will get better and better. As much as I hate the word alcoholic I’ve related so much to the sharing in AA I know I am one. SO.. long term abstinence is the best option for me.

    Just starting to experience the real “gifts of sobriety” and it’s great. Got a promotion at work two weeks ago now managing two people. Considering I was often working with a hangover (1-2. Bottles of wine worth) this is a transformation.

    Stick at it guys the rewards will be worth it!!

    Have a great long weekend all. I’m a very satisfied customer when it comes to giving up the drink xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 3 months ago

    Hi everyone

    Well yesterday marked the anniversary of one year sobriety ! Yay.

    I really relate to Mrs’s D’s blog about the work you gotta do if you decide to stop drinking.
    I had a CADS counsellor who I talked to for a year when I tried to cut down and the drinks kept creeping right up.

    After I decided to stop I started going to AA; that’s provided a great group support. Talking to other alcoholics, heavy or binge drinkers is so helpful. I realised I wasn’t the only one that thought “tonight I’ll just have a couple it will be civilised” etc haha. It never was.

    I’ve started exercising and eating healthily and found things to do socially that don’t include booze. Not always easy but SO worth feeling fresh each and every day.

    The two best things about the last year??? Not having the feelings of guilt and remorse. And the mental clarity.
    Oh and no hangovers!! Ok that’s three and there are more.

    Sure there are times it’s hard, you get home from work thirsty on a hot summers day & reminisce about that cold cider. But I remind myself that 5 ciders usually followed the first and then there’d be some red wine.

    So good luck everyone! Today I’m practising an “attitude of gratitude” and I wouldn’t trade the last year for a thing.

    Lots of love to this community xx

    • Aw, @chica, what a lovely post and huge congratulations on your year! Just got there myself recently and it was such a wonderful feeling, and I know some of my other day buddies are quietly there or about to be. High five! xxx

    • Congrats @Chica on 1 year. That is fantastic. Love your insight and gratitude as you look back over your first year! Reinforces why sobriety is such a wonderful gift!

    • Congrats @chica, awesome work xx

    • Huge congrats on a year+!!! : )

    • Well done on your one year! Love what you have written, especially about the hard times and that you would ‘play it forward’. You’re right, there’s always more to follow that first drink. Have a fantastic day. 🙂

    • Congratulations, wonderful,positive post.. Xoxoxo

    • Congrats!
      Happy Happy Soberversary

    • beautiful read, so happy for you 🙂 totally awesome

    • Wow! Sending hugs for you Chica. You are a perfect example of a life changed and being well lived. Thank you for a very uplifting post. Congratulations on your one year.
      If you get that Hmmm what now kind of flat feeling like some us do after one year, just hang right on in there – it gets so much better, it really does, there are many layers to this new way of living, many discoveries and persnal epiphanies (how do you spell that I wonder?). Have a gorgeous day xo

    • Awesome! Congrats on one year! 🙂

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 4 months ago

    340th day sober today can’t quite believe it!!!

    Life has changed immeasurably (am sure that’s a word?!?) .

    I’ve been going to AA and following bits of advice cause you have to really. In about three weeks it’ll be one year sober. A friend asked me what you get in AA for one year. I said “a medal” haha.

    It’s what you get every day I reckon. Going to bed with a clear head and living with a clear conscious just hasn’t got tired yet. I thought the dizzy heights would wear off but the daily rewards have been worth it. After 26 years of drinking I’m bloody delighted to have broken my own boozy misery cycle.

    Thanks @mrs-d and everyone for the support xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 6 months ago

    Happy New Year sober soldiers.

    Made it through Xmas with my boozy family and it wasn’t too bad. First sober Xmas and had the wonderful feeling on 1st Jan of celebrating 9 mths sober. Yay!

    Hoping and looking ahead to a great year so much gained deciding on this lifestyle. May start with some little goals like jogging Round the Bays!

    How everyone’s well and feeling positive. Keep at it x

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 6 months ago

    Hi peeps

    Getting close to Chrissy now!
    Hope everyone’s doing well.

    In a reflective mood this morning on what has been 263 sober days and quite a different year. Didn’t ever imagine there was the strength to give up booze and shit it’s been great.

    AA and having a sponsor has been such a good support and the HOW acronym – honest, open, willing.
    And this community.

    For me the being ready to change was the biggest piece of knowledge I needed looking back. Until YOU are ready and even then abstinence is a big call in this society.

    So just wanted to say thanks everyone & merry Christmas.
    I’ve saved $5k according to the orange box but far more importantly my sanity, liver and relationships (especially with my mum who I blamed for my boozy misery 🙁 by far the most important.
    Kia Kaha xx

    • Hi, @Chica. 263 days is super awesome! You summed it up really well when you mentioned “sanity, liver and relationships.” Hope you have an amazing Christmas. 🙂

      • @Chica – totally agree with you. I’m only at day 17…it seems to go so slow…having tried to stop once before only to relapse at day 90. Initially I was able to moderate, however slowly but surely I ended up drinking more than I was before and got to a point of what I’d call complete surrender. I was just so sick and tired of being sick and tired. This time around feels quite different, still bloody difficult, but different. Perhaps last time I wasn’t ready??

        I describe it like, last time I stopped drinking because I thought I should, this time I have stopped because I need to.

        Congratulations on 263 days. That’s awesome 🙂

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 7 months ago

    8 months sober tomorrow holy smoke.

    Took my wee brain awhile to calculate that into a fraction of a year haha.

    At AA there are promises which include losing the compulsion to drink and I’m grateful to experience this. Went to a big book meeting last night and discussed cravings. They’re hard at te start but they do pass.

    Just feeling really happy with tomorrow’s milestone and the resources to have got this far.

    Keep on keeping on LS community xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 8 months ago

    Happy Thursday peeps!

    230 sober days now not quite sure ’tis a miracle. 🙂

    I caught up with an old dear friend last night in a bar. Sign of a good mate that was more than happy to share a soda with me 🙂

    Silly season is upon us and that’ll be a challenge but she’ll be right.

    Hope everyone’s all good x

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 8 months ago

    Hi everyone

    A ton of days under my belt now!!

    Heading straight into my first sober silly season. Brace yourself.

    It’s not me I’m worried about it’s the vitriol of my parents and sometimes sister when they’ve had a “few”. Hmmm.
    I can relate to wearing this armour only too well.

    Going to read Mrs D’s blog and survival guides, lots of ciggies and my escape plan.
    It’s sobriety first right???
    And they’re family I love them unconditionally haha.

    Grateful today for making 7+ months, trusting my gut, avoiding risky situations and for my higher power heading me in the right direction 🙂

    Hope you’re all doing well whatever stage you’re at today. Kia kaha xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 9 months ago

    Greetings fellow community!

    Hope everyone’s doing well. My orange box says 200 sober days today! Have kinda stopped counting which hopefully means adjustment to this new way of life.

    Can’t really fathom that I haven’t relapsed and personally I’ve found being part of AA a great help. They say “if you want we’ve got stick around” and while sceptical at first I had to admit I wanted that! I’m still taking Antabuse but sincerely the desire to stop drinking just gets less and less. And the internal struggle man was I sick of that!!

    Just wanted to say keep reaching out to those around you, talk to your GP, telephone CAds or AA or both and lean on those pillars that are there. Most of us are surrounded by drinkers so the first few steps can be really hard!

    Keep trying guys and look ahead to better times xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 9 months ago

    Six months sober tomorrow!!

    Thanks for the support everyone. Ate a lot of chocolate & smoked quite a few ciggies but wouldn’t change it for the world!

    Happy Friday & keep at it!!

    Xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 9 months ago

    Hi all
    Storming towards 6 months on 1 October! Can’t believe it the best couple of months.

    Keep at it everyone!
    Just got a promotion & payrise wahoo!

    Keep trying everyone. The urge to drink honestly just goes and for me smoking and cups of tea, attending AA, getting a sponsor have all worked.

    Another chipper Monday would never have believed how much energy sobriety can give. Ok I’ve had two coffees today as well.

    Keep at it and Kia kaha peeps xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 10 months ago

    Hi everyone
    Haven’t logged in for awhile.

    And the little box says 150 days today!! Wow.

    When can you start thinking you’ve almost nailed this malarkey?!? Haha

    $2.5k saved and nearly 5 months. I dunno hard times ahead without a doubt but but but determined!

    Next I have to work the 12 steps, keep going to AA and nail this shit!!

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 10 months ago

    Former HEAVY drinker checking in today. I’m one week away from 5 months sober can’t believe it!!!

    With the help of this website, a CADS counsellor, a bottle or 2 of Antabuse, steely determination and a past of shitty memories to keep me going!! FREEDOM!!

    Bit high on life after 2 days skiing at Ruapehu. And we’ll at 41years old may as well sign up to bootcamp nothing will stop me now !!

    Go everyone there’s life around the corner.

    Kia kaha xx

  • Chica posted an update 2 years, 11 months ago

    Morning all

    My little orange box says 118 days sober and this shit is getting SO much better AND easier!!

    I’ve lost the urge to pick up a drink (finally)!! Still taking Antabuse though as a backstop and very determined to keep on keeping on.

    It’s been great to attend AA meetings and although so scared of that at first it’s becomes other save haven of support. Good luck and my best wishes to everyone.

    I feel such a happy, kind version of myself in sobriety it’s nothing short of fab!
    Sure we all have rubbish days and I hope mine are few and far between. Not for a $ million bucks would I return to my personal alcohol misery. Yuck yuck yuck!!

    Kia kaha lovelie 🙂

  • Chica posted an update 3 years ago

    Hi all

    Day 102 hooray!! Went to AA on Friday and got a green 90 day chip which was a lovely feeling and reward. Keeping quite busy at night, starting to really hate alcohol which is a good feeling. Perhaps hate to stronger word; seeing it as foe rather than friend anyway!

    Antabuse been great so for those pondering a GP visit I personally recommend. Making scrummy vege juices feels good for the soul. And also parked my love life for now as that only leads me to drink haha.

    Hope that everyone’s doing ok xx

    • Well done on day 102. Yep, alcohol was never our friend was it? xx

    • Fantastic to have reached the hundred plus mark @Chica. 🙂

    • Hey Chica, yay 102!! I think antabuse rocks too, no apparent side effects and taking it is just that extra little reminder that you’re not drinking that day.

    • congrats on 102 days @chica 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • Well done @Chica 102 days is great! 🙂

    • congrats, thats amazing! My GP did not want to give me antabuse because its dangerous……..ha ha ha hilarious like being addicted to alcohol isnt!? So funny:-)

  • Chica posted an update 3 years ago

    Morning y’all

    The little orange no says 94 days today. Wow. Kinda stopped counting.

    I had some pretty average blood test results come back last week re: liver function.

    Good to have a GP do your blood tests as this would have been the kick up the ass into stopping drinking a year ago had I known!!

    Just wanted to share that with you. As the actions have consequences!!

    • sorry to hear that @chica but congrats on your 94 days 🙂

      the liver repairs itself right?

    • The body can only take so much for so long. Well done on day 94 xxx

    • Give it a fewmonths and those liver functions will start coming back down. Great work on 94 days!

    • Good work on 94 days. You’re body will be loving you for it and giving a big sigh of relief 🙂

    • SueK replied 3 years ago

      Your liver will love you for giving it 94 days off, and it will love you even more for every sober day in the future.

    • Congrats on 94 days!

  • Chica posted an update 3 years ago

    Hi everyone

    Horrendous weather in Auckland.

    Approaching 3 months sobriety on 1 July and lost 4 kgs without trying. This is all coming up roses!!

    • That’s fantastic, well done @chica

    • wow awesome!

    • Well done on both counts Yay!

    • Well done! I’ve managed to gain wait due to eating whatever I want ( childish backlash against not drinking) ;as in chocolate, scones, sausage rolls, fish n chips twice a week etc. But I’m levelling out now at day 72 and enjoying my usual healthier diet. Plus upped the exercise again.

    • Woohoo @Chica
      Three months is great. 🙂

  • Chica posted an update 3 years ago

    Morning all

    The orange box says 87 days today! Who would have thought that life without the chemical crutch was possible!!

    Still getting weird responses from some people like my brother (trying to be funny) asked if I was going to the casino and my sister not able to grasp the concept of AA but hey ho.

    Think drinking SUCH as ingrained behaviour in my family super unusual for someone especially such an ex avid fan having voted myself off that island.

    Currently doing a financial audit and spring clean making sure I have steps in place to avoid hidden surprises that could cause stress and emotions that might be hard to handle.

    Hope everyone’s doing well. This totally gets easier. Last night I was at the supermarket pondering over what herbal teas to buy. Can walk past the booze aisle and not hear that voice drawing me in. Straight to the chocolate and ciggies haha hey no ones perfect.

    Kia jags peeps xx

    • Wtf I’d Kia jags please?
      But yay you rok star doing all that stuff.

    • JM replied 3 years ago

      Congrats on 87 days! : )

    • Well done on 87 days 🙂

    • Yes. Families can be weird. Friends too, but we can get new friends. It’s hard not to take comments personally but what they say usually has far more to do with what’s going on in their lives than what we’re doing.

  • Chica posted an update 3 years ago

    The orange box says “81 days” wow.

    Spent $450 fixing my car last week that sucked and spending every saved cent on smoking cigs but oh well. Not remotely interested in picking up a drink why would I fuck this up!!?!

    Now I’m thinking about manifestation someone in AA mentioned it. I’m trying to tactics the “laws of attraction” well new goals to work towards.
    Anyone have a story in relation to this??

    I’ve always thought good old fashioned hard work gave us the finer things in life I’m prepared to entertain alternatives at this point!!

    Xx

    • Congrats on 81 days @chica… Keep us posted on the laws of attraction and manifestations – I for one am fascinated. What does AA say about it?

    • Congratulations on 81 days @Chica that’s awesome. I’m working on getting myself a new career, taking steps in the right direction and also using affirmations and visualisation. It’s in progress so I will keep you posted! 🙂

    • Law of attraction is happening all of the time whether we’re aware of it or not.
      There are many resources to help you understand the principles of this way of thinking.
      The easiest, most practical way to letting Law Of Attraction work for you is to get happy and stay happy as much of the time as you’re able. Thinking positive thoughts way more than negative crap is also veryimportant. “You will reap what you sow” definitely applies here. 🙂

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi everyone. At Thursday yusss.

    Wanted to share I had a really positive meeting with a GP yesterday! Told her about the new sobriety & could I have blood tests & monitoring of Antabuse. A thoroughly positive meeting felt so happy when I left.

    My last 3 months (76 days sober today) after 25 yrs heavy drinking try and tap your local networks, GPs, counsellors, medication there is help out there!!

    My rant over

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi all. My orange box says 70 days!! Pretty delighted with that and yes peeps this does get easier!! Not even contemplating a blow out.

    Had a slightly tricky convo last night with one of my problem drinker mates. Asking if I’m still “on the wagon”. These mates are going to have to like it or lump it basically as my conviction is not (at this stage) waning. So there 🙂

    Also met a great chick at An AA meeting. She’s at about the same sober stage, funny, sweet and very encouraging so I think we’re gonna hold each other’s hands in this Ol journey. Yippee.

    Have a great weekend all xx

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    Persevere!!

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    67 days sober today wahoo!! Just been on the phone to my CADS counsellor celebrating what can only be described as a sense of freedom!!

    Started going to AA meetings and finding them great. Any nerves I’m feeling about these new things are counteracted with the joy I feel waking up free of the wine ball & chain!!

    Happy short week everyone xx

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    63 days today. One slip where I couldn’t go to work, ate Pizza Hut and reminded myself how grim my drink battle was/could be.
    Reading a bit of literature at the mo and see Mrs. d talks about them in her blog.

    For those teetering I can’t recommend counselling if you’re ready and perhaps medication. It helped my resolve and seemed to mentally prepare me for the new Journey. I’m taking Antabuse and like everything I saw my GP in consultation with a CADS counsellor.

    Since last post I’ve discovered an old friends older brother is in the same boat. He accompanied e to an AA meeting. Eeek bit scary but good to be around same-minded. Tonight going to another meeting in his neighbourhood. Whoop whoop 🙂

    Happy long weekend all and Chins up (rather than bottoms) xx

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 3 years, 1 month ago

    I am so touched by all you r kind and lovely comments!! This is such a great initiative @mrsD xx

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    Hi all. All going well until about day 45 when it went a bit pear-shaped. A lot of emotion came up, at work and hard to deal with. Saw my mum in the weekend and tough not getting any recognition / mention of my sobriety. Not after a medal but a pack on the back?!? Surely would la been nice!

    Taught me that this journey can be a solo one, my old drinking mates can’t really rejoice and I get that.

    After a shitty two days with lots of tears I spoke to CAdS.
    The counsellor rightly pointed out that dependent drinkers can be reluctant to give out praise/recognition as it makes them face their own dependency (if there is one) all of my crowd!! Hmmm

    Tricky but a good lesson learnt.

    How have you found other peoples reactions to your “new normal”??

    • Oh @chica I am so glad you have cads support. It can be lonely especially early on. Dependent drinkers always want a buddy to normalise their drinking. I know this because I was one. Here’s a virtual medal from me.

    • I so hear you.I have been feeling really alone too within my family and friends too.But I’ve decided they have their own battlesand it’s not all about me.I’ve learnt that through this wonderful community.I would like to give you a medal too..oh and one for me xx

    • I told my mum that i had given up drinking…………nothing was said. No well done, why, how….zilch. She has been an alcoholic since i was a teenager, before that she was addicted to valium for 8 years. So, not surprising she didnt acknowledge my achievement. But we all know how hard this is for you and we are here for support. So well done, you are a star xx 🙂

    • Well we all think you’re a super star x

    • I’ve had a lot of starting overs but also really struggled when I had been sober for a good while and no one says anything. Ever. But I think that my being sober makes them happy. I think it is so hard for non problem drinkers to bring up something so personal. Thank goodness everyone here thinks you’re awesome and are doing beautifully.

    • Once, my (then) best drinking buddy told me I was a “stupid bitch” because I knocked off the booze.
      How’s that @Chica. 😉
      Some mothers aren’t too good at praise.
      Better to rely on us for that. ♡ ♡ ♡

    • Happy day 45! I’ve found that other people who have not had the same experience jut have no clue what sobriety means. I was disappointed at first that some people close in my life could not recognize what a huge accomplishment this is, even made light of it sometimes. It’s good to know that this community understands and can celebrate how truly amazing this change is.

    • Hi @Chica– I hope things have gotten a little better for you. You are kicking serious butt! Perhaps if you share with your mom that you really value her support and need her encouragement, maybe she will “get” it? Ether way, we completely understand and think you are a rock star!!! 🙂 <3

    • I am so touched by all you r kind and lovely comments!! This is such a great initiative @mrsD xx

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 3 years, 2 months ago

    Great work on the Antabuse and CADs don’t feel ashamed a means to an end.

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 2 months ago

    Thanks for your supportive comments.

    I have to say CADs counselling provided a backbone of support if you feel like trying. It’s a case of putting your “toe in the water”.

    I found my counsellor gentle and understanding and it’s free. At the moment he is calling me almost every day to ensure I’m ok, to offer praise and discuss anything.

    I’m not one to preach but can highly recommend counselling to discuss all those things that friends, partners & family aren’t necessarily trained to know. And did I mention non-biased!! 🙂

    Good luck & cheers (I’m having a ginger beer:)

    • What great support. Yes I’ve heard great things about CADS. Really glad it’s been working for you – it’s all about finding that combo that works.

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 2 months ago

    Hi everyone. 40 days sober today first time in my life.
    Went out for dinner last night so experimenting with the new normal. We decided to choose a place without alcohol had nice Mexican chats & could drive home. I can do this!!! Haha

    The website calc says $800 saved so far and that’s a nice feeling too!! Going to go shopping with my older sis and splurge on clothes when I get to $1000. Yussss!

    For anyone reading I went to CAdS and talked through all the pros & cons for a year before deciding to do this. I’m taking Antabuse also which has worked and have found this suprisingly easy.

    At the risk of sounding giddy I wish I’d done this earlier 🙂

    • Thats great! I love those nice round numbers in ten digit increments. Thanks for sharing your success with us @chica. The money saved is a big incentive for me too. I love that feature of the website.

      Good luck and keep up the good work.

    • Woohoo, 40 days & $800 that’s amazing!!

    • Love this and your attitude. 40 days wow!!! I’m meeting with cads next week for some counselling. Bit nervous only because you don’t know what the counsellor will be like and I’m easily irritated. But I’m prepared to let ego go and give it a shot. I’m so pleased to hear it’s working for you chica!

      • Let us know how it goes. I keep thinking about having counselling with CADS but haven’t been brave enough yet.

        • Hi @rahera. I’m still feeling in two minds re CADS but I’m booked in so I think I might just hop on that train and give it a go. I will report back (Thursday) but the first appt is an assessment only. I know it’s early days for me ( day 8 Horray!!) but speaking to my doctor and getting Antabuse has been a lifeline. I always imagined it was for ‘hardcore lying in a ditch alkies’ but now I see it as a happy bridge to sober island. At least from the island I can get some perspective which I wasn’t getting with my constant daily battle with wine. In the words of Mikey Havoc….FREEDOM!!

      • Great work on the Antabuse and CADs don’t feel ashamed a means to an end.

    • That is fantastic, congratulations on 40 days. 🙂

    • love this!! x

    • Well done on 40 days 🙂

    • Congrats on 40 days! You sound fantastic!

    • Well done on the 40 days sober @Chica.
      That amount of $$ saved is awesome! 🙂

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 3 years, 2 months ago

    Community Alcohol and drug services @odette.
    They provide free counselling services in the major centres. Have found all of them super helpful, proactive and understanding. A life line for me coming from a family of heavy drinkers 🙂

    • Oh duh! 😛
      Of course that’s it.
      Makes so much sense now I see it there. But nowhere on the net did it tell me that! 🙂
      You are a fund of information for me.

  • Chica posted a new activity comment 3 years, 2 months ago

    I’d tell her you’ve made a big change when she arrives. Something to be proud of.

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 2 months ago

    Hi everyone. Ticked off 30 days sober today & according to mrs D’s calculator saved $600 at the same time. Can’t believe it.
    A mini milestone as some people do “dry July” every year but no I was always chugging back a bottle (or 2) of red wine every night.
    Have found CADS really useful and they’ve been a fantastic support.
    My mum & sister gave me a present on Friday to celebrate with a card saying “so proud of you” 🙂 couldn’t be more chuffed with how I feel and less damaging for everyone around me too!!

    • Congrats on 30 days and what a wonderful thing your Mum and sister did and you should be proud xxx

    • Hey @chica wow that is so touching yr mum and sis giving you a card.

      And congrats on 30 days!!!

    • 30 days. Yay! That’s wonderful to get the support from your mum and sister. My mom sent me a heartfelt txt during my detox about how proud she was, etc, and then signed it off ‘lol’. She was very embarrassed when she found out it meant laugh out loud and not lots of love – apparently she’s been using it quite often as a sign off!!.

      • That’s hilarious. My mum once asked me to grab some euthanesia at the chemist for her!…( she meant echinacea). Hey thanks for your help today. I was being so self obsessed I forgot to ask how you are doing?.? Filling in your evenings ok this week? 🙂 @agent99

    • That is so sweet of your mum and sister. Congratulations on 30 days xx

    • Congrats on 30 days! What a well-deserved and kind gesture from your family!

    • Well done on a month sober @Chica. 🙂
      What is CADS please?

      • Community Alcohol and drug services @odette.
        They provide free counselling services in the major centres. Have found all of them super helpful, proactive and understanding. A life line for me coming from a family of heavy drinkers 🙂

        • Oh duh! 😛
          Of course that’s it.
          Makes so much sense now I see it there. But nowhere on the net did it tell me that! 🙂
          You are a fund of information for me.

    • That’s so cool cads worked well for you. I’m thinking of going…good to talk to a counsellor I think.

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 2 months ago

    I wanted to share my new knowledge on the “wheel of change”. There are 6 cycles and for some you’ll only change when you’re ready.

    I’ve had 12 months of counselling (with an amazing guy at CADs) and decided a month ago to go sober!! 18 days sober without one slip. I’m 41 & have been drinking for 25 yrs. it is possible!!!

    🙂

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago

    9 days sober using Antabuse! So far no temptations and friends & family being considerate!! Yay!

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago

    7 days sober. Whoop whoop!!
    Went to the GP and got prescription Antabuse. I can honestly say it could be a placebo but no cravings, sleeping extremely well and far too scared to touch alcohol. Delighted!!

  • Chica posted an update 3 years, 4 months ago

    Giving this a serious crack! Managed to reduce intake but sick of falling into old ways.

    A good chance to try and get fit for the ski season at the same time 🙂

    • Go well Chica. Just stop. See how you feel in one month. You will never look back. You”ll be flying down those mountains with a self contented grin from ear to ear xo

    • You can do it @Chica! Be sure and have a plan set for if/when those cravings come calling. Lots of good info in the sober toolbox for that 🙂 Happy sober day!

    • Agree with prudence- if you moderate then fall,specially hard, maybe need to think it over try abstinence.

    • Exciting stuff Chica. Moderating didnt work for me either. So much better on the old mind to just ditch alcohol completely.

  • Chica became a registered member 3 years, 4 months ago