finally at the age of 62 I do not want wine in my life anymore. I want to wake each morning with a clear head and memory, no more guilt, I want to enjoy my life and make the
most of every minute with my family and friends and be at peace with myself
Sorry to hear this @kjpeche. I was in a similar place 4.5years ago. My husband has not actively supported me but I decided early on this was my journey, my life and what I wanted for me. The wee rebel in me said “I’ll show you” and I’ve never been happier. Funny thing is, he has told others how proud he is of me!! And he has cut back big time on his drinking! Not sure where this is going but I want you to remember you are doing this for you, and only you. Everyone who benefits from this brave move on your part is a bonus. Don’t let him get you down you will be fine, stick close to the wonderful people here, and keep doing what you are doing. Not sure of the days I’ve been sober but I noticed almost $20,000 not spent on wine which I’ve spent on me and my beautiful family, holidays, fun stuff I remember and am grateful for. Very long post from me!, Chin up princess, don’t want your sober crown slipping. Xoxo
Good old Prudence and her wisdom @janus2. I too take my hat off to you, your struggles have been great and you have managed with determination and your sick humour, plus Fatbum and your amazing man. I know it would be very easy to pick up a wine, but I know I won’t because I won’t give up all the wonderful things and people I have in my life now. Enjoy your camping and keep doing what you are doing because it ismworking and we love you and we need you here. Xoxo
Hi little buddy @janus2 Busy time of year with family staying, I check in quite often to keep up with you. I love your posts, almost always brings a smile. I am also proud to know you and look forward to catching up soon. But where is our @quietlydone?? xoxo
So sorry to hear you are so low @seedynomore it’s a buggar of a place to be. As you are on medication, can I suggest a visit to doctor as sometimes the drug is not right for you and there are alternatives, but please don’t do nothing. Do you have someone you trust to reach out to, either way, keep posting, a lot of us here understand and will respond. You will get better, the sun will shine again for you, just hang onto that. Sending you and your daughters big hugs xoxxo
Hi @nixon35, yes I had headaches for quite a while, but they passed and a couple of paracetamol every day or two was nothing compared to the other poison I was downing. Moderation to me means giving up everything I have worked so hard for over the last 3 plus years, it is not an option, I am a sort of all or nothing person! Well done on your 13 days stick with us here, the support is amazing xoxox
Thank you my little buddy @janus. I am very blessed to have all my family with me now until end of January. Lots of fun in the sun and ocean for us! Hope to catch up with Charlie emjaycee and treehugger at Ohope in the new year. Funny I had my first drinking dream after almost 1500 days wtf is that!! Anyway it only strengthening my resolve to never let that poison into my life again. I am a wee bit behind in the happening here but know you have sold property, where to for you now, off to Golden Bay (equal in beauty to eastern BOP!) another teaching job? Please don’t take on too much, have a wonderful Christmas and don’t let family stuff it up, take good care of you because we love you and need you here. Xoxo
Didn’t realise how much I love this site and the awesome people here. I don’t check in as much now as in the early days, but knowing I couldn’t felt very strange. Love the new site, thank you again Lotta and Dan, you have done a great job and great to be back. xoxo
Thanks @enzedgirl, I would love to come and have been in touch with a few people from the BOP and will be in touch when I hear from them, trying to organise a day trip. Sounds fun and would be lovely to see everyone. Great idea. Xoxxo
give me a rough idea of numbers when you can. do we have each other’s email addresses? @mrs-d i’d be happy to share email addies with @bondi if she’s also cool with that. tbh i think we had them before re the Whangamata get together but my hard drive shat itself a couple of months ago and i lost everything.
hey @ladyhawke – @bondi is one of our lovely BOP members 😀 i wonder if there are peeps coming up from your area that might make it feel more do-able ???
Hi @Janus2 ,hope you have had a good day. I second everything our wise wee Prudence says. I also had a good laugh at the c word, guess you really were P,d off. My greatest wish is for you to finally have good things going for you, and to be your own boss. You can do it, and the rewards will be amazing, and no petty b.s. from morons who don’t appreciate how smart you are. As for family drama, I have siblings who don’t speak to each other but would bad mouth each other to me(which was very stressful) and I have finally just decided to let them do their dumb stuff and stay out of it, and just let it go. Nothing I say will change the situation and will make me ill.I read a quote a while back, “Thoughts are like visitors, let them in, but don’t offer them a cup of tea” and that sums up my attitude. You take care of you and then “keeper” of a man my dear friend. Big hugs xoxox
YAY @Winner and @Bondi ….thank you. It’s good to know I’m not the only one that had time and got the dumb idea in the sick diseased brain of mine that it was the only option to fix the pain I was in at the time. There is nothing in this world, good news or bad that a drink will ever make better.
Sorry for late reply my wee friend @janus2 Been down on the farm and offline…which I love. Think I agree with Prudence, you don’t need to prove anything here, take your time looking for more work and the stress that could come with the change, focus on selling property and enjoy time with man and the perfect job for you will appear. And don’t ever dress to please anyone but you…just love you as you are. Big hugs xoxo
Welcome @authentic, we have all had our rock bottom and the only way is up. Stick with us, check in as many times a day as you need, there is always someone to help. Alcohol dictated how I lived for over 40 years, if I can do it ,with the help of the support here I have been sober coming up 4 years, you can too. Be kind to yourself, take time for yourself and ditch the piss, as our dear Prudence spwould say. Xoxo
Welcome @hotchocolate, the early days are the hardest so three weeks on your own is amazing. With all the love and support from the fabulous people here you can do it, kick that wine bitch to the curb, xoxo
You deserve much happiness our pocket rocket. Have a great time and let us know how it goes. Love the idea of a meditation hut, but canot imagine you sitting still long enough to use it. Safe travels xoxox
Hi @frog, I’m sorry this is so difficult for you. It is hard having alcohol in the house. My husband still drank daily when I first joined here, but he is able to stop, unlike me. I decided it was my decision to stop completely, my journey and it was about me, and only me. I think he doubted my ability to quit, so that gave the rebel in me the incentive “to show him”, Stay with us, take each day as it comes and know you are always supported by us. Wishing you well.xoxo
You are doing brilliantly, 28 days is awesome. They are just numbers but in the early days very significant, I did the “not today” each morning and now almost 4 years on, l have gained so much. Life is not always perfect, but being able to deal with raw emotions is one of the greatest gifts. After almost 50 years on the roller coaster booze train, I can honestly say I am happy and grateful for all I have, and you will be too, because we deserve it.