• Bluewren posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 1 for me – I’m lucky enough to be on a holiday in Bali. Halfway through and I’ve decided the second half is going to be sans booze. Booze has the ability to destroy great moments, it lingers hauntingly in the background, never letting my mind rest no matter how little or much I have. Love love this site, last time on here I got to around 120 days, feeling better prepared and more courageous this time. Thanks for the courage in all of your posts (ex lurker here) x

    • Wow! That’s a pretty cool attitude 😀 looking forward to following you through your journey 😀

    • @bluewren! How lovely to see you. 🙂 xxx

    • @bluewren how are you?!! So cool you are back I’ve just rejoined too and was looking out for you. 120 days is amazing! I got to 80 and then fell back into some pretty destructive habits. Back now though and day 22. Funny you should say you feel better prepared and courageous this time, it feels different for me too, really different. Enjoy the rest of your holiday, enjoy every moment stay strong and stay close to this site!

    • Welcome back! 🙂

    • good to see you again, @bluewren. bali sounds like a great time. enjoy.

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    That is awful. Good for you for taking action @hammer123 , in Australia tax was increased significantly on these drinks (70 pc) to try and stamp this marketing and accessibility out. You certainly noticed a steep decline on such drinks being around.

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Congratulations on 21 days @lee-2 . I have gained so much inspiration from your post, and will be repeating ‘Everything starts now in my head’ all day long

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Congratulations @happyness that is amazing. I love the quote, and I am going to unequivocal inspiration from it

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @maryh I get awful headaches when I stop drinking, I tried everything except the obvious water. I now fill up a litre bottle that I must drink everyday, along with lots of other AF beverages (plus extra water when I can). It has made a massive difference, I still get headaches, but they are less frequent and a lot less servere x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 10 months, 4 weeks ago

    Great post @DaveH

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 10 months, 4 weeks ago

    xxx – ahh glad you have got some answers, and hope – please take massive care of yourself

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Great post @DaveH

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Love this @DaveH great post love your work

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    Hi @lynnelowe big congratulations on Day 50,so true life is so much better, I chugging along on Day 13 x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @reena saved as I’m travelling in a couple of weeks time. x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks for all the encouragement @DaveH. Welcome @sunny_disposition . Today I will not drink

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks for this post today @DaveH I certainly needed it today- so true – Day 7

    • Hi @bluewren Don’t drink for the rest of the day, then you have a Friday tucked under your belt… The next challenge is Saturday… But you already know you can do that, you did last Saturday. When your head is screaming at you that a drink would be good scream back “Liar!” Please let us know how you get on on Saturday and Sunday.

    • Hi @kate1975 are you at Day 7 too? How are you doing? Who else in the list is in the low digits? Please post and let us know how you’re doing… the good, the bad and the ugly. Please don’t try to do this alone… you don’t have to. You are not alone.

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 6 here we come -have a fab one everyone – today I will not drink!

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Brilliant post @DaveH Your post yesterday really help me get through Day 4 nemesis day. Wishing you and everybody else a lovely day

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Yay to Day 4 – yes it has been my nemesis in the past too, but not today- thx for the support

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks for the shoutout @DaveH all going well here on Day 3

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’m in @DaveH Day 3 here we come

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Have a fabulous trip with your daughter @begoodtomyself sounds really special. Thx also for some advice you gave me quite sometime ago about anxiety and how you dealt with it- this time round I am taking some antidepressants just to hopefully smooth out some of the bumps. Oops sorry to making about me, just want to say thx and have a fab weekend with your daughter xx

    • Good for you @bluewren, it’s important to get whatever support you need. It’s good to see you here (I just read your post below). I am much more aware of my anxiety (and other feelings) the longer I am sober and slowly learning to manage it better too.
      Thanks for the good wishes 🙂

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @juliana

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @steveF hope you have a lovely day

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yep bust a move , good on you for taking action, best of luck with it all , Peace

  • It’s day 1 for me. I am going to start the first day of spring tomorrow without a hungover. I am so grateful for this place, as I know from last time I need connection to do this. Last time I committed to day 1 on here I made about 120 days. I found my anxiety levels weren’t easing, and had a drink. There were so so many better options, but I went back to my trusty old nemesis for 20 mins of relief followed by 20 hours plus of pain, and so the cycle begins again. Anyway this time I have put some things in place, inc doc visit regarding anxiety and greater self care. One thing for me I know I must avoid drinking situations in the short term, my default is do anything to fit in, even when it is obviously to my detriment. Happy Friday everyone, I’m so glad to be back xxx

    • Glad you checked in @Bluewren. Most of us have been where you are so you have lots of company here. Sounds like you have a solid plan plus your experience to draw on. You can do this. I’ll be pulling for you.

    • Good for you for continuing your work. It sounds like you have some new insights about what you need to stay sober.

    • Glad your here stay strong.

    • Fabulous when people come back with new insights and ready to rock to freedom!

    • Hi @bluewren so glad to see you back!

      Hey your post made me think … in the short term we MUST avoid drinking situations – hell yes.

      The thing that occurs to me that in the medium and long term it changes to we WANT to and make the CHOICE to avoid drinking situations.

      That’s how it changes, in time.

      Congrats on your 120 days …. they haven’t gone away. After a bit of a space you’re just starting a new run of beautiful, lustrous pearls in your string of alcohol free days …..

    • Welcome back. @enzedgirl is right. We change. And it gets to be the new norm. You can do this, if you really want to. No, it’s not easy, or we wouldn’t need this site. But it is so much better. xx

    • Great to hear from you @bluewren..and great that you are back. . I had to come back again too. You can do it….

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @liberty and @seedynomore. So glad to see you on here liberty, as I really wanted to thank you for the shout-out a while ago, it kept here (lurking) and motivated me to put things in place to start again, Happy Friday to you both

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @lynnelowe so great to see you. Congratulations on 37 days, that is awesome, so glad things are passing easy, really motivating to hear. I’m starting again, I got to about 120 days last time and slipped up, so it’s Day 1 for me, but so glad when I logged on to see you here

    • Great to hear from you. Yep it’s hard to keep on, because I only went back to glass of wine here and there, but Iw ant to stop it so I don’t sabotage myself. Also the older I get the more sensitive I get to it. This place is great to come back to eh? No judgement only support. Great to be in touch. Have a great weekend.
      PS It seemed much easier this time round…. so far anyway after about 2 weeks.

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 12 months ago

    Wow – thank you I needed this today

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year ago

    Hi @liberty I thank you so much for this shoutout, it meant so much to me and I wanted post straight back but I couldn’t find the words to articulate what I wanted to say. So I kept putting off until the next day, or deciding to do it when I was back on track. So sorry for not replying back; what I want to say is your post truly helped me, it made strive to get back on track, where I really want to be. Thank you so much for this , you are so kind and thoughtful. I really hope things are going okay xx

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Thanks so much for this post, the line ‘anything that fucking moves is not safe’ cracked me up- is funnier that she Looks so cute and like she couldn’t hurt a fly….

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Happy Birthday @mari135 wishing you a wonderful day, with a bit of laughter thrown in. Thx so much for sharing your navigating through such hard stuff. Thx also for always emphasising the power of therapy; it has made me make progress, and I’m off to see someone today……so your post is timely that it is so worth dealing with the uncomfortable, rather than numbing, over and over…..xxxx

    • oxoxoxo Thanks so much for your kind message, Bluewren!
      And I hope the therapist you saw today felt right and was a good fit. If not, give yourself permission to find the right one. I googled “warning signs of bad therapy” and found that helpful when I was out looking for help.

      Lots of love your way!

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Love it – congratulations!

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Hi @esharp76 I wish I could find the words to help- I’m navigating something similar – when your not included or made to feel unworthy in your own family, it bloody hurts- I think we need to be proud that we would never act like them, I’m just trying to move forward and be the best version of me- ‘fight the good fight’. they’re actually ones missing out on someone trying to make a genuine connection – it will all work out x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    How lovely horseback riding with your girls – big congratulations on 370 days

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Massive belated on 777 days – what I really cool number xxx

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Thank you – I am going to try – my feet need all the help they can get

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Congratulations to your son for smashing the 100 metre dash – sounds like a great day- so glad you were surrounded by support

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    I’m so sorry for you and your family @enzedgirl

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Happy Birthday @mamatomany

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    @mari135 so much for me to gain from your post- primarily the benefits of sharing, with the right people…As I ponder this, so, so glad those ducks were rescued – makes me smile, well done

    • So glad you liked that concept, Bluewren!
      I was very bad at it….but in therapy learned that if you choose the right people to confide in…you will be met with compassion and kindness…

      oxoxoxo

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    So true, so can relate to glass number four just ‘disappearing’…wish I could help re Friday night, I’m still figuring it out-m….

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    800 days of freedom from booze is awesome @begoodtomyself – thx so much for all the support, your advice has been priceless

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Well done on Day 6 @sg it’s so nice that your Dad understands and supports you. So true about one day at a time. I think even we think we are not making positive progress we always are in some shape or form. Don’t stress about not ringing, the thing is ypu have the number there, and you thought about it. I think that’s part of the process, and one day you will take the plunge. I won’t drink today either

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    I will not either @lucy – hope the flatness passes soon x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Happy Birthday – love it what a great present to yourself ….wishing an absolutely fabulous day

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Glad you’re feeling better

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    There should better laws about stupid law decisions @Ro what a load of rubblish 7 years good behaviour, close 10 full time weeks of community service for 28grms of pot – gees I would be / am angry too. grrr what’s the point of pleading guilty if that’s what you get…… so many people do ‘actual’ horrendous things and get no conviction

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    That sounds like an incredible adventure

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Big congratulations- hope you treat yourself somehow xxxx

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    Congratulations on Day 155 you sound like you’re in such a great place x

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    That is so much to deal with, I wish I had wise words to help. Justice better pervail – have you got someone you can talk to, eg a therapist so you can try on get some coping strategies to get through the next couple of weeks, as unfair as the ex’s demand is, it is completely out of your control (at the moment). As for the phone calls and emails (I take it there not from ex….. he sounds like a piece of work, but not that stupid). I think you need to go to police, or find a way to block them (sorry you have prob tried). All this will work out, please take great care of yourself

    • Hi @bluewren!
      Thank you! Yes. I went to police/than Dective when one of messages was a video of a guy JERKING OFF. (Wtf)
      But there were no leads as phone not under name etc etc
      I went to Geek Squad(computer) and my phone carrier. I did all blocking so there’s nothing left
      I see a counselor. I am running again and taking Zoloft
      I think I just have to wait it out. It is raw and horrid. And maddening
      But luckily in cycles(like wine witch)
      I know drinking would destroy everything. I just feel hopeless

  • Bluewren posted a new activity comment 1 year, 3 months ago

    So glad you a great night, that is such a great description of how a night can be sans alcohol. Enjoy the rest of the weekend x

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