• aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Beautifully shared post @JenB and congrats on 21 days. You are delightfully so self-aware πŸ™‚ I too hope that man found his way home safely.

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Oh wow, @Cinderella congrats on 43 years!! I won’t be wearing boozey googles this time around so I’ll be well equipped to look out for all those red flags when dating!!

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @Hunterga your day count must be getting up there by now! Great to see you’re still on this site xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yeah 6 months is my 1st real big goal that I’m looking forward to passing alongside you @Winner I hope you are having pockets of happiness too xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yeah me too later in the year… look out world, @timidwarrior and myself will be on the prowl hahaha 🤣

  • Day 173, not that I’m counting these days… I’m too busy getting on with living life. I tried and failed so many previous times to stay sober I know in my heart of hearts that this IS IT. Everything is making much more sense this final time around.
    I’m eating better, exercising, seeing a counsellor (not alcohol related, simply to help unpack and process some shit I’ve been carrying for far too fucking long!), meditating, and quite simply enjoying my single life taking myself off on dates wherever I fucking fancy, or staying home! (Going to wait till I’m 12months sober before I contemplate dating again, eeek and sober too!!!)
    I’ve been setting little daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals and so far I’m ticking them off ( or having a bloody good stab at them anyway!)
    Work is great, very busy so I’ve been throwing myself into that as there are a couple of things I would like to achieve and learn.
    My son’s doing great.
    All in all, I’m quite content and happy where life is right now and I know that whatever happens alcohol will NEVER make it better!
    I hope whether you are on day 1 or 10000 that you know you can call on these wonderful folk here or either lurk and peruse looking for inspiration or advice.
    I’m off to try out my new boxing gloves and give the bag in the garage a bit of a thrashing, so fingers crossed I don’t pass out in the heat!
    Have a wonderful evening my lovelies xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Oh heya, @Agirl my summer’s going great. It was a very short-lived break over Xmas, I was back at work on the 3rd and it’s been super busy! Hope life has been treating you well these past couple of weeks. The weather has been sensational, putting everyone in a much better mood I reckon!

    • Oh that’s good to know. I hadn’t seen you posting for awhile, glad you’re well. I’ve been back at work since the 3rd as well. But the beautiful weather makes up for it a lot. Spending this weekend with friends in the coromandel. A non drinking challenge successful so far. Thank goodness

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Love this @timidwarrior this is what living a great sober life is all about. Relishing those small pockets of joy xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    @kitten take care ☺

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh I hear you @Hammer123 😂 I could quite easily be a lady of leisure, time off has been great 👌

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I personally think if it doesn’t feel right, don’t drink it. Whether it be kombucha, or alcohol free wine/beer. The whole “You Do You Sweetheart” comes into play I reckon 😊 214 days, shit that’s awesome @MalibuStacey!

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Why do something you spend so much of your time at if you don’t enjoy it??? Love my job☺ How’s your day treating you @Sober4real

    • Absolutely true. I love what I do as well…my day is almost over now @aprilaries. My brother’s fever went down so that is good and I’m just preparing for the week to come. I’m hoping for good things and excited for 2019! How about you? Glad your son is back….that is such a blessing.

  • Day 156
    The lad is safely back from his week away at the beach with his mates. Good to have his company, conversation and humour around. Much nicer cooking for someone else too.
    We’re both back to work tomorrow as well.
    I’m looking forward to seeing my babies ( Baby/Infant Teacher in an E.C.E Centre) and finding out whose crawling, walking and learned new words/skills over the Xmas break. Lovely to see my colleagues too. I am lucky to be part of a gorgeous and passionate teaching team.
    I’ve been sipping raspberry/lemon favoured sparkling water, feeling fancy as fuck. Best go tidy the kitchen, then water the garden.
    Have a great evening you beautiful people xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh @Ro your son needs you to create strong united boundaries with your partner. He won’t like it, he’ll have a tanty. You need to look after you and not enable him either. Comprise? Invite him over for a meal? Be black and white and try saying, we live clean and we don’t won’t shit in our house. The door is always open and your welcome, providing you behave respectfully.
    You wouldn’t tolerate a friend/partner behaving the way your son treats/emotional guilt trips you.
    You can’t change the past. Forgive yourself and let it go. Tell your kids yeah you fucked up at times in the past, now you’re putting shit right.
    I dunno, my 5 cents sweets.
    Your daughter? I have an understanding with my son that he pays board regardless of how many nights he’s home or not. If he was flatting he’d still have to pay rent/phone/power it’s non-negotiatable.
    Kids huh? Fucking harder as adults than they are as toddlers I reckon.
    Sending you a hug xxx Fingers crossed you guys get some rain too 😊

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I love everything about your post. Very self-aware and concious @Kit I’m most certain you are going to continue to grow and be succesful with your goals and intentions xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Morning @SteveF yeah I’ve been having issues too πŸ™‚

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    It has been a year alright! Happy new year to you too @SuperCath and hoping there’s more laughter, love, cherished memories and less tears of loss xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh wow, @Sober4real that’s a tad fucking intense, eeeeek!! I’m praying, hoping, wishing and all that endearing shit that your x-ray is a-o.k! If you feel now is your time to give the ciggies a miss, you go for it and know we are all cheering you on!!!

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Self-acceptance and self-care go hand in hand @Timidwarrior πŸ™‚ Be kind to yourself. We’re so often our own worst critics and berate ourselves… We teach others how to love, respect and treat us xxx Here’s to 2019 YOUR year <3

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh @Ro I keep missing your posts on here since the site was renovated and I’ve missed your swearsies, honesty and pearls of wisdom 💫 This new site has been giving me grief the past few days, not loading or refreshing and shit like that, so fucking frustrating. You’ve been in my thoughts, along with your son, your daughter and bat-shit crazy neighbours!!! Hope 2019 is full of more sparkles and less shit 🦄💩💖

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @kitten and to you a brilliant exciting sober year ahead xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh good for you @Sara1988 I’ve been quietly cheering you on from here in NZ. Happy new years xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    You do you @Saoirse xxx I’m unaware of what’s happened or gone on with your son, my heart hurts with you though. I feel your anguish, sadness and confusion with you 💖 You’re not alone!
    Gardening is great therapy xxx
    Much love and hugs xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    @Lizzy there is no going back to what was me living a life of chaos and shambles! Happy 2019 to you 💖

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Right back at you @Winner you sober rockstar xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I honestly wouldn’t have it any other way @Agirl 😊 Enjoy your 1st of many gorgeous days xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    All the best to you too @Vodcath xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    @soberstylist have a great day xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    @MalibuStacey your evening sounded great 👌 Suek’s questions were perfect! Have a leisurely day xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy new year to you too @LT18 πŸ™‚

  • Morning all you fabulous people πŸ˜€
    It’s the 1st January 2019, 6:41am. I’ve been up for well over an hour. Completed my morning stroll where I was kindly greeted with the sights of seeing a small herd of cows, a pair of ducks, a lone rooster and several birds catching that early worm. The washing machine is now getting busy while I sit and enjoy my 1st coffee of the day, of the year!
    No sore head, no churning stomach, no racing thoughts trying to piece together my night.
    I took stock yesterday, counted my blessings, acknowledged the struggles and challenges, set my intentions for the coming 12 months.
    I’m bloody proud of myself for getting to 155Days sober πŸ™‚
    The longest time I’ve ever been sober since I started drinking at 16 is 6 months and that was only because I was pregnant!!
    This site has been an absolute godsend for venting, clearing my head, gathering my thoughts and sharing ideas around living alcohol free.
    Have a wonderous 1st day and to those of you going through the ending of 2018, enjoy and look forward xxx

  • Less than an hour to go till the new year… I’m in bed with 2 cats and my eyes are about to shut.
    Stay safe, sober and see you in 2019 you remarkable beautiful folk.
    Much love xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’ve discovered if I click on the little box to the right that says ‘everything’ and click to ‘updates’ or back to ‘everything’ it seems to refresh and work!

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I have my new pens and diary set out on the dining room table all ready for me in the morning! I shall keep my eyees peeled for that lemon-lime bitter, thanks. Sleep well @Saoirse xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Nighty night @winner this sober chick off to the land of Zzzz’s

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Sounds blissful @timidwarrior. Stay safe while out there tonight. See you in the new year xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Beautiful and truthful post. You have done a lot of reflecting and now moving forward you are going to have a fantastic 2019 @Lizzy That word “intention” has a lot of power behind it. If you intend to do all those things, you shall xxx I’m winding down my wild, crazy night (read my earlier post, hahaha πŸ˜› ) and going to make a cuppa peppermint tea and shower, ready for bed. Have a wonderful happy calm last day xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I am 100% certain of it. You can so do this @Sara1988 xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    What a great forward thinking strategy @sara1988 that’s awesome! You’ll get to remember the night, the conversations, the people, the atmosphere for better or worse! Focus on enjoying and getting through this night before you worry about weekends and such. Check back in on here when you’re safely home and let us know how you got on xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    You’re a rockstar @timidwarrior and I have complete faith in you that you can tell that wine witch to feck off! Enjoy saying goodbye to 2018 and welcoming 2019 xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Have a well earned restful sleep @hunterga and bring on a sober 2019 for all of us.

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Put on some relaxing music or listen to a fave podcast and enjoy your slumber @sober4real xxx I cannot grow anything to eat, sadly. Yet give me a flower, tree, succulent, shrub I can grow them from cuttings. I’ve become that mad crazy cat lady with house plants and a rambling garden who meditates and does yoga and has parties by herself, hahahaha πŸ˜€ and zero fucks given xxx

    • Ooooh I wish I was around. I’d love to visit @aprilaries. I want to be a green thumb but I’m not – however, I’ve never really tried. I can’t wait to do the ritual tomorrow night. Did they leave Sue K’s post up? I thought it had been replaced. Giving zero F’s is essential. hahahahahaha!

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh god yes of all bloody days, I’ve had issues with my phone and the laptop! Glad it we’ve all got it sorted now @winner and @timidwarrior πŸ˜‰

  • So today I’ve cleaned, scrubbed tidied and sorted my wee house then finished watching the 2nd season of Anne with an E (reliving my childhood!) while having a binge of chocolate, liquorice and spicy corn chips.
    It’s now 7:30pm and I have incense and candles burning (the norm really in my home) I have some music playing loud and about to tackle my pile of ironing while I have a quiet boogie by myself. Then I’ll go give the garden a water. I shall be on/off here for the evening.
    I may be alone, I am however definitely not lonely! I am feeling happy, content and calm.
    Hollar out if you want conversation or have any suggestions for my playlist tonight xxx
    Keep it sober, I’m hitting the sparkling water with a splash of Barkers Cordial: lemon/lime/mint & cucumber, it’s delightfully refreshing. It’s a bit tart and a bit sweet, like me, hahahaha πŸ˜›
    Anyways, Marc Broussard’s version of Twisting The Night Away is urging me to go twist and shake my sweet arse.

    • @aprilaries – as always inspiring! It’s 10:41 p.m. here on 12/30 and dark, blah and rainy. So it’s off to bed soon. I miss having the routine you have and your garden sounds lovely. I’m going to have to plant some stuff this year for sure.

      • Put on some relaxing music or listen to a fave podcast and enjoy your slumber @sober4real xxx I cannot grow anything to eat, sadly. Yet give me a flower, tree, succulent, shrub I can grow them from cuttings. I’ve become that mad crazy cat lady with house plants and a rambling garden who meditates and does yoga and has parties by herself, hahahaha πŸ˜€ and zero fucks given xxx

        • Ooooh I wish I was around. I’d love to visit @aprilaries. I want to be a green thumb but I’m not – however, I’ve never really tried. I can’t wait to do the ritual tomorrow night. Did they leave Sue K’s post up? I thought it had been replaced. Giving zero F’s is essential. hahahahahaha!

    • Super legend ! Very industrious ! ❤️❤️❤️

    • Happy New Year @aprilaries. I love that Barkers cordial too and there’s a Bickfords lemon, lime and bitters one that is fab too. Having sparking pink grape juice with raspberries tonight though, very refreshing. I will be heading to bed soon, so looking forward to 2019 and writing in my posh as diary!!! ❤️

      • I have my new pens and diary set out on the dining room table all ready for me in the morning! I shall keep my eyees peeled for that lemon-lime bitter, thanks. Sleep well @Saoirse xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy new year to you too @stevef πŸ˜‰

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Glad to have put a smile on ya dial there @Cinderella πŸ˜€ Have a beautiful day xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Looking forward to celebrating later with this gorgeous gang! Enjoy your day @winner xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Ooooh, @Timidwarrior I quite like that: happiness and acceptance! Yes, bring it on. May the new year greet you with blessings you sober rock star xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    You’re doing great @Hunterga and 2019 will be your year to shine, tackle new adventures and smash new challenges all while being alcohol-free! Have a happy last day for the year xxx

  • aprilaries posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks, @Thor May you continue to smash your goals in the coming new year xxx

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