OMG! Im so grateful that there is a place to go to connect with folks just like me. I am a 66yr old proffessional lady,having a hell of a time getting sober for more than 7x consectuvive days. Im so totally over myself!
Looking fwd to connecting with you all.
Wonderful post @rineylou. So inspiring espec for me. Careless is a great word for me to hear. Im so guilty of throwing caution to the wind and–the fuck its land in. Before I know it—im in wine trouble!! Thanks for reminder.
Hey @itsnowornever. I drink more when I go to AA–its the stress I think of having to explain oneself face to face and I do believe some become addicted to it like a cult. This site is precious. im sticking with it.
Good morning all you lovely sober supportive people. I just love getting up in the morning and reading your posts–good or bad,cause Ive relasped a million times and always come back here. Day 25 for me and Im staying with my daughter in sydney who has just had a baby so Im helping her out. Im feeling a real purpose in my life(which I havnt felt for years) in that I can help her with cooking washing etc. So Im a Grandmother peeps in my late 60s and would like some imput from you sensible people with my dilemma! I live in NZ and have a few friends but all my adult kids and grandies live in Australia. —4 hours apart from each other. My dilemma is—-should I move to australia to be close to my kids(I dont have friends there-yet) or do I stay in NZ or do I stay where I am where I am familiar with everything.. I think in my gut I know what I should do but the indecision has been going around and around in my head for years–but now its time! Thanks in advance everyone.
A big thankyou to all you lovely peeps who replied to my ‘poor me’ rant yesterday re my partner leaving me for a much younger BLONDE!! Day 21 today and feeling incontrol(mostly) of my emotions–all due to being sober,and the fact Im staying with my dayghter and her new baby in sydney. Not looking foward to going home(NZ) to live alone. Keep up all your good work and please keep posting.x
Dear @annie keep pushing through and one day you will wake up an realise everything in your life is better because you are sober. It might not happen overnight but it will happen and as @kitten said your ex can’t take away your sobriety. And you are allowed to rant here as much as you want because most of have at some point and we’ve all known tough times. Stay strong sister.
Day 20 here and feeling calm although still low from my relationship breakup. Another woman involved so the rejection is tough. and the fact that he moved on so fast after our 9 year relationship absoluetly astounds me. Men!! Who needs then–especially dinosaurs! I know if I was drinking I would be a depressed mess unable to cope and very needy. Sorry for the rant folks. Keep sober all you warriors. This site is a lifeline.
Hi Annie – oy that is a blow. Sounds like he left the relationship, emotionally, long before he left physically. Now is your time to focus on your self and give yourself the amazing gift of your own attention. A blessing. Congrats on day 20.
You hang right in there @Annie dear. The skies are going to continue to clear and the world is going to be a much brighter place for you. Day 20!! 24 hours away from 3 weeks!! You’re on your way. Keep going.
Oh @morgan–I so hear you. i always seem to cop the bullys wherever I am but you are so right—stay determined and move foward. im trying to do exactly that after my partner of 9 years left me for someone else. I refuse to be the victum this time round. Thanks for your post.
Good evening all.Im back here 10 days sober after a harrowering 2 months. My partner of 9 years has for the last 3 months been acting weird(we didnt live together) and I did suspect there was something very wrong with our relationship. It turns out as I found out today,he has met someone else and wants to persue her–as I wouldnt move in with him,but I did spend most nights travelling to his place(1 hour) so we could spend the nights together then back to my place the next day. He met me 8mths after his previous wife died, and I did think—whoa–this is too soo. Now hes after a new one before hes ditched me!!! anyway I did relaspe and have a big meltdown a couple of months ago,but today I almost feel a freeing up of my life. What a ramble–sorry folks. Love this site and I shall stay close.
Hey Annie, relationships can be hard and such a trigger. 9 years is a long time and if anything, pain related to belonging is probably our biggest one, for humans that is. We are such pack animals and wired to want to belong. Take it one “next best decision” at a time.
You are going to be ok. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will all feel ok again eventually.
Hi @Annie! I’m sure that stings but your back on the right train. the one with tracks! Sounds like the perfect time to focus on your recovery and to let his story be his own. (The revolving Door) Great to hear that you’ve already got 10 days and are moving forward! xo
Hi @Mari135. What a fantastic post. Made me cry–not because it was sad but because you are one beautiful woman who gets us alkies including me. You make me feel as though Im not alone in this “space” Im in. I too want to stop beating myself up and look to a future ahead. Thankyou so much.x
Oh @annie. I’m sorry to hear that you are sad. As you know tho, booze won’t fix anything. For me, I just wake up feeling more annoyed with myself. I do love the feeling of having control of at least something. The choice to not drink is mine. I just have to remember to be stronger and not be swayed by others.
good for you @robynb. I often wonder about going to church, then I remember how I dont want to get hooked up with a new bunch of people who Im sure will try their dammdest to have me see things their way!
There were some nice pieces, but overall I didn’t agree with the language. I feel spiritually moved when I read a good book, or hear a great piece of music, or any number of ways all of the time. I did not feeling in that church. But I will likely try others. Will see. I need more social activity, but with more like minded people I think.
I hear ya @fridaymay92014. I too worry about my adult kids and want to fix every little problem for them! Any emotional hiccup and I want to drink. Does that ever go away? Im over myself and all my shortcomings!!
wow @Lee–42 days is wonderful. a big congratulations. and many many thanks for your wonderful post above. You are truely a wise woman..Reading and re reading your post gives me the grounding I need to hear and I thankyou for that. Are you still attending AA? Have a wonderful day.