• Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Wonderful post @mari35

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    i cringe when i think of the phone conversations ive had with friends when drunk!! No connection there.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Wonderful post @rineylou. So inspiring espec for me. Careless is a great word for me to hear. Im so guilty of throwing caution to the wind and–the fuck its land in. Before I know it—im in wine trouble!! Thanks for reminder.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Thanks @heidi19

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Thanks @Ellie24.x

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hey @itsnowornever. I drink more when I go to AA–its the stress I think of having to explain oneself face to face and I do believe some become addicted to it like a cult. This site is precious. im sticking with it.

  • Annie posted an update 3 weeks ago

    Good morning all you lovely sober supportive people. I just love getting up in the morning and reading your posts–good or bad,cause Ive relasped a million times and always come back here. Day 25 for me and Im staying with my daughter in sydney who has just had a baby so Im helping her out. Im feeling a real purpose in my life(which I havnt felt for years) in that I can help her with cooking washing etc.
    So Im a Grandmother peeps in my late 60s and would like some imput from you sensible people with my dilemma! I live in NZ and have a few friends but all my adult kids and grandies live in Australia. —4 hours apart from each other. My dilemma is—-should I move to australia to be close to my kids(I dont have friends there-yet) or do I stay in NZ or do I stay where I am where I am familiar with everything.. I think in my gut I know what I should do but the indecision has been going around and around in my head for years–but now its time! Thanks in advance everyone.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    oh @jess—life sux for you at present, but you must remain sober so you can be the strength for your parents.x

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Youre on your way @DennyD

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    wonderful inspiring post

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Soooooooo hear you @RineyLou. Well done. And a good reminder to me.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    you certainly are an inspiration @ylang-ylang xx

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Love this @ellie24

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    im much calmer too.

  • Annie posted an update 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    A big thankyou to all you lovely peeps who replied to my ‘poor me’ rant yesterday re my partner leaving me for a much younger BLONDE!! Day 21 today and feeling incontrol(mostly) of my emotions–all due to being sober,and the fact Im staying with my dayghter and her new baby in sydney. Not looking foward to going home(NZ) to live alone. Keep up all your good work and please keep posting.x

    • Keep up your good work, too! Hang in there. x

    • hey, @annie, congrats on staying the course. day 21 is quite an accomplishment, it is one thing that your partner cannot take away — your sobriety, do it for you. be well.

    • Dear @annie keep pushing through and one day you will wake up an realise everything in your life is better because you are sober. It might not happen overnight but it will happen and as @kitten said your ex can’t take away your sobriety. And you are allowed to rant here as much as you want because most of have at some point and we’ve all known tough times. Stay strong sister.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Thanks @ladyhawke for your wonderful post.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    I have that voice singing to me too @RineyLou. I almost feel like its permission to drink already!

  • Annie posted an update 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Day 20 here and feeling calm although still low from my relationship breakup. Another woman involved so the rejection is tough. and the fact that he moved on so fast after our 9 year relationship absoluetly astounds me. Men!! Who needs then–especially dinosaurs! I know if I was drinking I would be a depressed mess unable to cope and very needy. Sorry for the rant folks. Keep sober all you warriors. This site is a lifeline.

    • @Annie You are doing so well. Stay strong sister

    • You rant as much as you need to @Annie.. you must be going through so much right now, just think how strong you are… xxx

    • Hi Annie – oy that is a blow. Sounds like he left the relationship, emotionally, long before he left physically. Now is your time to focus on your self and give yourself the amazing gift of your own attention. A blessing. Congrats on day 20.

    • You hang right in there @Annie dear. The skies are going to continue to clear and the world is going to be a much brighter place for you. Day 20!! 24 hours away from 3 weeks!! You’re on your way. Keep going.

    • Cheering you on

    • Thinking of you @annie. Stay strong and be kind to yourself. Sending you hugs❤️

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    @Jocord—i think co-dependency is a biggie for us. must read more about it.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    same for me too.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    You have the right attitude @lee,and you are doing it. congratulations.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Beautiful post @ chasingthedandelion.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Cant believe how well Im copeing @Lee. I didnt at first of course–went into a big drinking meltdown. 12 days sober and feeling stronger than ever.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thanks @mari35. Im doing ok now that Im back on track. x

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    day 12 here and cant believe how calm I am despite life.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes @mrsD–Im feeling a hero today copeing with my relationship breakup sober! Never done that before! Hero I am. Thanks for that.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Love your post @buckeyeone. Good reminder for me.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thanks for your wonderful post @Lee. I need to be reminded of just how wonderful sobriety is.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Oh @morgan–I so hear you. i always seem to cop the bullys wherever I am but you are so right—stay determined and move foward. im trying to do exactly that after my partner of 9 years left me for someone else. I refuse to be the victum this time round. Thanks for your post.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes @Eshia—home alone is a real nasty trigger for me too. How did you cope?

  • Annie posted an update 1 month ago

    Good evening all.Im back here 10 days sober after a harrowering 2 months. My partner of 9 years has for the last 3 months been acting weird(we didnt live together) and I did suspect there was something very wrong with our relationship. It turns out as I found out today,he has met someone else and wants to persue her–as I wouldnt move in with him,but I did spend most nights travelling to his place(1 hour) so we could spend the nights together then back to my place the next day. He met me 8mths after his previous wife died, and I did think—whoa–this is too soo. Now hes after a new one before hes ditched me!!! anyway I did relaspe and have a big meltdown a couple of months ago,but today I almost feel a freeing up of my life. What a ramble–sorry folks. Love this site and I shall stay close.

    • Congrats Annie on 10 days!!!! And I’m sorry about your relationship. You can do this! We can do this! 🙂

    • Hey Annie, relationships can be hard and such a trigger. 9 years is a long time and if anything, pain related to belonging is probably our biggest one, for humans that is. We are such pack animals and wired to want to belong. Take it one “next best decision” at a time.

      oxoxox

      You are going to be ok.
      Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will all feel ok again eventually.

    • Lee@ replied 1 month ago

      Hi @Annie! I’m sure that stings but your back on the right train. the one with tracks! Sounds like the perfect time to focus on your recovery and to let his story be his own. (The revolving Door) Great to hear that you’ve already got 10 days and are moving forward! xo

      • Cant believe how well Im copeing @Lee. I didnt at first of course–went into a big drinking meltdown. 12 days sober and feeling stronger than ever.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi @Mari135. What a fantastic post. Made me cry–not because it was sad but because you are one beautiful woman who gets us alkies including me. You make me feel as though Im not alone in this “space” Im in. I too want to stop beating myself up and look to a future ahead. Thankyou so much.x

    • Ohh thanks so much for your kind words, Annie! Much appreciated. oxoxoxxoxo

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    SECRET—-has been so true for me in the past. Noone will know!! Hey stupid Annie–you will know.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    wonderful post @Lee as always.I too have pinpointed the reasons why I drank and now aware of that empty space to fill. You are doing so well—keep it up and keep posting please.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Day 1 for me too @Kaydee. Ive relasped after a relationship breakup. Im so sad and confused.

    • Oh @annie. I’m sorry to hear that you are sad. As you know tho, booze won’t fix anything. For me, I just wake up feeling more annoyed with myself. I do love the feeling of having control of at least something. The choice to not drink is mine. I just have to remember to be stronger and not be swayed by others.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    I hear you @Bobby. Could have written your post myself. Hang in there. Its so worth it.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    youve already proved to yourself you can do this.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Good for you @lars. I hate myself too for constant relasping! Whats the matter with me? Hope your cat is ok. I love cats.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    You mastered it @buckeyeone. Congrats on day 3

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yep,I find eating early sends the Wine Witch packing.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    good for you @robynb. I often wonder about going to church, then I remember how I dont want to get hooked up with a new bunch of people who Im sure will try their dammdest to have me see things their way!

    • There were some nice pieces, but overall I didn’t agree with the language. I feel spiritually moved when I read a good book, or hear a great piece of music, or any number of ways all of the time. I did not feeling in that church. But I will likely try others. Will see. I need more social activity, but with more like minded people I think.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    I hear ya @fridaymay92014. I too worry about my adult kids and want to fix every little problem for them! Any emotional hiccup and I want to drink. Does that ever go away? Im over myself and all my shortcomings!!

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @Tamsil for reminding me of exactly how it used to be for me–hideous memories—well the ones I could remember anyway! Congrats on day 8.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Love your post @tipsytoegal. You are an inspiration.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    xx

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great post @Ro. I enjoyed every word. Keep them coming.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Very best wishes to you on your return home @nessibnzl

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Youve started on your recovery @clouisec. Congratulations. I was where you are 2 weeks ago. Hate myself soooooo much. We can do this.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    wow @Lee–42 days is wonderful. a big congratulations. and many many thanks for your wonderful post above. You are truely a wise woman..Reading and re reading your post gives me the grounding I need to hear and I thankyou for that. Are you still attending AA? Have a wonderful day.

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    sending you and your boy everything positive for a speedy recovery @rise2015.

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