I'm an American in my 50s, happy at long last to be newly sober, to have found Mrs D's blog, and to be connecting with people on this amazing website. I am very grateful to be here with my eyes blinking open to a bright new sober world.
Well, @Teazy, it’s perfectly legitimate to say no, I’m not going, whether it’s late or early days in sobriety. If you just can’t bring yourself to say no in this situation, then you might try what I did the first time I was going to face a pretty big social challenge as a non-drinker: I role played with a friend. We imagined what it would be like,…[Read more]
Thanks very much. I have dipped in and out of AA for some years now. But I will stick with going to some meetings and reading the book, along with anything else that helps. Yes, I have also noticed that a lot of the “new” support is similar to what has been in AA for years. I have been to SMART recovery a few times and noticed that the group…[Read more]
Came on here to see how you are, @timidwarrior. So glad you are looking out for yourself, getting rest, and cooking and eating nutritious meals. The little ways we practice self-care make a huge difference. Well done–keep going! We are with you.
You’re not alone, @timidwarrior. Many people here have been where you are. Today can be the day when everything becomes clear–alcohol is lying shite that tries to convince us we can handle it, we can moderate, we can drink a little bit. That’s what all the lying shite advertisements tell us, and the lying shite cute wine glasses and t-shirts. You…[Read more]
How awful, @Lee. No wonder you were upset! I’m so glad you went home and meditated. I’ve been doing some meditations to sit with “negative” feelings and let myself feel them instead of fighting them. They’re the emotions I used to drink to keep at bay. Now, in recovery, I’ve learned that they won’t kill me or anybody else, that they are not…[Read more]
@anneC Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. This guy had a few months sober at one point a few years back and was attending meetings but found fault and, of course, reasons to keep drinking. It’s pretty ironic that he’s since landed a maintenance job for the owner of our space and sleeps next door. He just lurks outside drunk usually but last…[Read more]
Thanks for posting the link to your blog, @angiex. I just read all of your posts there, and like your writing a lot–you are the writer you have always wanted to be, so keep going, I say. And protecting your sobriety will also protect your identity as a writer, because, well, you’ll write! You’ll have more energy and time to be creative, and…[Read more]
Thanks for your reply. And many, many thanks for your thoughtful and wise response a couple of weeks ago when I was struggling and at a pivotal point. I still find it and read it when I have difficult moments.
@beehappy, maybe you’re opening your friends eyes to something completely new to her, and she needs a little time and patience to get used to it. Maybe it’s like what used to happen, many years ago at least, when people learned for the first time that someone close to them was gay. The conversation might have gone something like, “Wait, you? Gay?…[Read more]
Thank you @AnneC I think that makes complete sense, I hadn’t thought of it that way. She has even said things like “but you are ok” etc. It’s funny how seemingly tiny and throw away comments can be triggering. I’m just trying to ride these feelings out and they should pass.
Sending lots of love to you and your family at this difficult time. So glad we are sober! And you have helped me and so many others in recovery. What a gift to bring to an ever-widening community. Thank you!
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