• AnneC posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Yes, love this. Thank you for posting, @JM!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Well, @Teazy, it’s perfectly legitimate to say no, I’m not going, whether it’s late or early days in sobriety. If you just can’t bring yourself to say no in this situation, then you might try what I did the first time I was going to face a pretty big social challenge as a non-drinker: I role played with a friend. We imagined what it would be like,…[Read more]

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Fantastic! So happy for you. Yes, amen to that–let’s keep on truckin!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Yay! Truly good work, as in well done, and your work does good. Congratulations on 8000!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    @Michael6, yes, you do need balance, I agree. So maybe for someone that means 90 in 90, and for you that means some other combination of resources that may include AA (or not).

    I started AA after 3 years of sobriety this year. I’m finding it complements rather than conflicts with everything else I’m doing–therapy, yoga, mediation (also…[Read more]

    • Thanks very much. I have dipped in and out of AA for some years now. But I will stick with going to some meetings and reading the book, along with anything else that helps. Yes, I have also noticed that a lot of the “new” support is similar to what has been in AA for years. I have been to SMART recovery a few times and noticed that the group…[Read more]

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Yay! Well done, @wildchild!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Came on here to see how you are, @timidwarrior. So glad you are looking out for yourself, getting rest, and cooking and eating nutritious meals. The little ways we practice self-care make a huge difference. Well done–keep going! We are with you.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    My condolences to you and your family for your loss.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Wonderful, wonderful! Thank you for posting. Amen.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    P.S. Congratulations on coming here for support today. That shows you are and have been in recovery, right now, this very moment. Let’s keep going, together.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    You’re not alone, @timidwarrior. Many people here have been where you are. Today can be the day when everything becomes clear–alcohol is lying shite that tries to convince us we can handle it, we can moderate, we can drink a little bit. That’s what all the lying shite advertisements tell us, and the lying shite cute wine glasses and t-shirts. You…[Read more]

    • P.S. Congratulations on coming here for support today. That shows you are and have been in recovery, right now, this very moment. Let’s keep going, together.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    How awful, @Lee. No wonder you were upset! I’m so glad you went home and meditated. I’ve been doing some meditations to sit with “negative” feelings and let myself feel them instead of fighting them. They’re the emotions I used to drink to keep at bay. Now, in recovery, I’ve learned that they won’t kill me or anybody else, that they are not…[Read more]

    • @anneC Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. This guy had a few months sober at one point a few years back and was attending meetings but found fault and, of course, reasons to keep drinking. It’s pretty ironic that he’s since landed a maintenance job for the owner of our space and sleeps next door. He just lurks outside drunk usually but last…[Read more]

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Thanks for posting the link to your blog, @angiex. I just read all of your posts there, and like your writing a lot–you are the writer you have always wanted to be, so keep going, I say. And protecting your sobriety will also protect your identity as a writer, because, well, you’ll write! You’ll have more energy and time to be creative, and…[Read more]

    • Thank you so much @AnneC for taking the time to read my Sober Notes and thank you so so much for your feedback and kind encouragement ! angiex

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Oh, that’s so lovely to hear, @js123–thank you for letting me know! 🙂

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Beautiful! Yes, happy freedom day to you, too!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Great post, @JS123! I appreciate your observations about all the good stuff and the hard part. Congratulations on 40 days! Well done!

    • Thanks for your reply. And many, many thanks for your thoughtful and wise response a couple of weeks ago when I was struggling and at a pivotal point. I still find it and read it when I have difficult moments.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    @beehappy, maybe you’re opening your friends eyes to something completely new to her, and she needs a little time and patience to get used to it. Maybe it’s like what used to happen, many years ago at least, when people learned for the first time that someone close to them was gay. The conversation might have gone something like, “Wait, you? Gay?…[Read more]

    • Thank you @AnneC I think that makes complete sense, I hadn’t thought of it that way. She has even said things like “but you are ok” etc. It’s funny how seemingly tiny and throw away comments can be triggering. I’m just trying to ride these feelings out and they should pass.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    I’m wishing you and your mom a healthy, happy, lifelong, empowering, enriching recovery. Hey, that sounds pretty good–I’ll take one, too.

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Wonderful, wonderful! Congratulations on a huge milestone! Well done!

  • AnneC posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Sending lots of love to you and your family at this difficult time. So glad we are sober! And you have helped me and so many others in recovery. What a gift to bring to an ever-widening community. Thank you!

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