• angiex posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    Hello all 🙂 I’ve been so busy I’ve not spent much time on here for a long while but I wanted to document 100 days sobriety and thank all of those who have read my journey, sent kind encouragement and shared there own journeys here on Living Sober which really has been an massive contribution to my recovery, especially in those first few days and weeks. So…having had no alcohol for 100 days, I feel 1000 times better, there have been countless consequential blessings, best of all, I get to hang out with the people I love more because my mind and body aren’t constantly in repair mode. I’m so grateful for change and for a family who have loved me through it all. I’ve been writing my about my journey to get and stay sober here, https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/
    To all the newbies, welcome and stay close xxx

    • @angiex Congrats on 100 days!!! That’s my first big goal. It’s encouraging to hear how well you feel at 100 days. 🙂 I read some of your blog, too. Thank you for sharing your experience. Day 24 here. Staying close to this lovely Living Sober community has been a massive contribution to these first few weeks for sure.

    • Yay congrats❤️

    • Woo hoo on 100 days! Fantastic!

    • Triple digits high five!!!!
      oxoxoxo I will get onto checking out that blog of yours right away now too. Thanks for sharing this!!

  • angiex posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    92 days ! Living sober has absolutely changed my life for good. How did I get here…the decision to stop drinking (for real this time!) came from utter desperation, becoming completely honest about my drinking; how unhappy it made me and how my behavior was hurting the people closest to me and by complete surrender to my maker. I decided to trust that the one I call God would catch me…https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/

  • angiex posted an update 2 months ago

    Hello everyone ! I’ve not been on here for so long due to my new job wiping me out; in a wonderful way ! I’ve missed engaging here so just a quick check in before bed to say welcome to all you newbies and hey to all. I celebrate 80 days sober tomorrow, I don’t think I’ve had 80 consecutive sober days in 20 odd years. Life is manageable today and I’m truly happy and content; while t’s not all sunshine and roses, when there are stresses I’m able to cope now x

    • Congratulations on 80 days sober. Hope to get there myself. Thanks for your post

    • congrats @aniex, what an accomplishment 80 days AF. congrats on your new job.

    • HI @angie. Life is manageable. You said a mouthful there! Great thought to start my day. Happy day 80. Congrats.

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @Morgan you’re welcome to copy & post anywhere you think would be helpful, it really had become a vicious cycle for me, one that had me so low at times I didn’t want to be here. I got so incrediably desperate, getting completely honest about what drinking was doing to me & my family was the breakthrough ! Forgot to mention that my prayer life & working AA’s steps have both been central to my staying sober x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    @morgan I think the most important strategy was that I became 100% honest with myself, secondly, folding myself into this community here at Sober Living, (i stayed logged in and visited multiple times per day during the first 2 weeks) and attending AA 3/4 nights per week for the first few weeks. Have had to slow the meetings down now due to work but because I went to many earlier on I’ve built friendships that allow me valuable support via texts & phone calls during the week when work keeps me away from meetings x

    • Sounds very strategic indeed. Can you post this at the top for all to get the benefits? or I can do it. I think some think, ok, I will stop, but dont gather all the support around them. The more failures, and the more depression around the failures, the harder it gets … vicious cycle.
      YOu have done so well!

    • Thanks @Morgan you’re welcome to copy & post anywhere you think would be helpful, it really had become a vicious cycle for me, one that had me so low at times I didn’t want to be here. I got so incrediably desperate, getting completely honest about what drinking was doing to me & my family was the breakthrough ! Forgot to mention that my prayer life & working AA’s steps have both been central to my staying sober x

  • angiex posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 59 ! So thankful. Life has become so good. It took a lot of Day ones to get here. Never give up ! Hello to all the newbies, stay close x

    • Yay congrats on day 59, I’m with you life has become good! let’s keep it that way xx

    • Hooray @angiex

    • Well done. What got you here? Best strategy?

      • @morgan I think the most important strategy was that I became 100% honest with myself, secondly, folding myself into this community here at Sober Living, (i stayed logged in and visited multiple times per day during the first 2 weeks) and attending AA 3/4 nights per week for the first few weeks. Have had to slow the meetings down now due to work but because I went to many earlier on I’ve built friendships that allow me valuable support via texts & phone calls during the week when work keeps me away from meetings x

        • Sounds very strategic indeed. Can you post this at the top for all to get the benefits? or I can do it. I think some think, ok, I will stop, but dont gather all the support around them. The more failures, and the more depression around the failures, the harder it gets … vicious cycle.
          YOu have done so well!

        • Thanks @Morgan you’re welcome to copy & post anywhere you think would be helpful, it really had become a vicious cycle for me, one that had me so low at times I didn’t want to be here. I got so incrediably desperate, getting completely honest about what drinking was doing to me & my family was the breakthrough ! Forgot to mention that my prayer life & working AA’s steps have both been central to my staying sober x

    • Noice one.

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    @Poivre congratulations ! I’ll have a look when home x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hello @gabbydyet hope ya like it here, it’s such a special place x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @TammyA welcome to this special place x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome @Laurie505 this is a special place x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Aw thanks @JM ! haha, I’m the newbie at work and a lil concerned my “Maria” like joy is super annoying…x

  • angiex posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 55 – Feeling the growth & stretch of sobriety https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/

    • I love your post! And this line: I never want to be less grateful for my life than I am now. Funny, someone was making a Maria/Sound of Music reference yesterday about me. : )

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Aww thank you @Mari135 it was so lovely to read this after a long night shift xxoo

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you to @Mari135 Hammer123 & kitten for your comments. Such a treat getting personal encouragement on here xxx

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    absolutely @heidi19 …another benefit to add to the endless list of benefits that keep coming from not drinking x

  • angiex posted an update 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    53 days sober & have just been called into work to work the night shift at a job I’m still the newbie at. Feeling super grateful & so grown up !

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    @tipsytoegal wow ! Thank you for sharing ! I’ve just spent my first week as a Caregiver and absolutely adore the precious peeps I get to care for. It is so healing ! You’re certainly not the first to be manipulated by a man using God & bible to manipulate a woman into submission, and now you’re able to share your story, your story will help others so very much ! I just want to give you a massive hug, I’m so happy you’re free & loving what you do xx I wrote a post describing a little of the overwhelm of gratitude I’m experiencing from loving my role as a Caregiver, I’ll post the link below xxx

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    @malibustacey yes ! Alcohol gave me distance from feelings of stress and other uncomfortable feelings (until the morning) but also made it impossible to feel anything good ! x

  • angiex posted an update 3 months, 1 week ago

    Day 43 and so very gratefully employed ! https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/

    • Warm reading, @aniex. Thanks for sharing that. It’s not only inspirational, but so insightful to recognize your sobriety being so lovingly re-enforced again and again. The more clear we become, the more of God’s presence (God of a person’s choice) we are able to soak-in. I know with myself, I couldn’t fully feel the grace of God’s presence while in any way inebriated…or hungover. My brain wouldn’t chemically, and certainly not emotionally, allow much of anything ‘genuinely deep’ in ~ let alone ‘divine’.

      • @malibustacey yes ! Alcohol gave me distance from feelings of stress and other uncomfortable feelings (until the morning) but also made it impossible to feel anything good ! x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    @savtadontdrinknomore goodness I can relate so strongly to the not believing I can stay sober ! I initially set myself a one month goal of sobriety because to think past that seemed impossible ! I’m gratefully 38 days sober today and so much has changed within myself already and externally, my thinking is clearer and brighter. The list of massive benefits is long ! I share them all here and here https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/
    Staying close to this community was advice @DaveH gave me not long ago and its great advice. Reading others stories and sharing my own here, attending AA and my faith in God have all helped keep me sober this time, I can’t do it alone, I’ve tried and failed so many times so stay close x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Welcome @marnielee This community here is wonderful, I’m not sure I’d still be sober this time around without it so “stay close” as another member told me recently. Even if you don’t feel like engaging, just reading others journeys can give hope and prevent you from feeling alone in the struggle. I’m only 37 days sober but it also feels like a mammoth achievement because I’d just spent a year in relapse where I couldn’t get more than a few days at a time sober, so 37 days ago I sat myself a month long goal to stay sober because any longer felt too hard at the time, and guess what, a month later, (last week), I felt so much stronger, that another month and then another doesn’t seem so scary or at all impossible now. Be patient and kind with yourself and if you’re like me and don’t add sugar to anything maybe add a little to your diet during the early days just to combat the sugar withdrawal you may suffer from not drinking, might just take some urges away, I found it helpful x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    @pippa21 Welcome back ! I’m slowly but surly getting well from a year long relapse. It takes time to build resilience, both physical and emotional. I’m 36 days sober and still have days when I’m so tired for no apparent reason. Try adding brisk walks to your days and be kind and patient with yourself x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks heaps @Sober4real I love hearing others stories and it really is invaluable being encouraged on this journey 🙂

    • Great job on a confident interview. I had an interview for a position back in 2006. It was right when I was getting sober for the serious first time. Anyway, the first interview I had a hangover! Luckily, they brought me back for round 2 and I did NOT have a hangover. I was in that job for 5 years! Sobriety makes a huge difference and if we think others do not notice we are wrong. 🙂 Great job! Crossing fingers you get it if it is what you want!

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    @timidwarrior Aw enjoy your night ! Great field to study x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    @timetobesober I do feel for you and relate to a lot of what you’ve written. Please try to be kind and compassionate to yourself. There’s an app called Headspace that teaches simple meditation, it taught me to let my thoughts come and pass instead of letting them stay stuck and circle my head which fed the anxiety so much I felt my head would actually explode. Perhaps try some ‘grounding’ techniques when you are feeling overwhelmed. Try to be patient and kind to yourself. It’s early days, I so believe that the longer you stay sober the better you’ll feel and think and do x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    @timidwarrior I love how you’re so aware of what makes you vulnerable and look forward to reading about how the work party goes, there’s no shame in sneaking out early and tucking yourself safely in bed. What are you studying ? x

    • To be honest I’d love to just curl up in bed and sleep the night away but I also know I need connection with people for maintaining my mental health. I have been working from home.most the week so it will do me good to go and hang out with my friends for a while!
      I am studying mental health 😁

  • angiex posted an update 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    I confidently conducted myself through a job interview today. I would not have had the confidence to sit relaxed and answer every question had I not spent the last 36 days sober ! Good things really do happen when ya get sober even while other stuff is still really hard x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @stevef and everyone else above 🙂

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  • angiex posted an update 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    One month ! 31 days to be precise, I’ll count each month as they fall on the 4th to celebrate my day-one date, April 4th. Thank you to every person who has taken the time to respond to my posts, thank you @janus2 for the kick up the bum I didn’t at the time know I needed ! Thank you @MrsD for this space, whether I lurk or interact, this space helps so very much ! X

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @Sober4real Thank you so so much ! This space truly has become a place of such valuable support. It’s just incredible how much it helps to be able to communicate this way x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @Ro Thank you, it does feel so good, a little alien at times still, but good !

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @embracingsober One of favorite things about this space is hearing I’m not alone in my thinking ! So thank you for sharing that. Now that a month has passed, the next doesn’t seem daunting, I’m coming to terms with the truth that this sober-living is not temporary x

  • angiex posted an update 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 27 ! I’m looking forward to ticking off my first month and the next and the next… One month was the initial goal I set myself because 27 days ago, looking further forward at the time seemed impossible! A huge part of my recovery is writing… https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/ Welcome to all the newbies x

    • @angiex you are doing so well, I’m so happy and I have read your blog when you post it. I think later on you will be glad you have it so you can read it anytime to remind you of where you have been. Things can only get better for sure! 🙂 Great job!

      • @Sober4real Thank you so so much ! This space truly has become a place of such valuable support. It’s just incredible how much it helps to be able to communicate this way x

    • Good on you 🙂

    • I had one of those moments early on in my journey when the forever thought was so so daunting… but now i wouldnt have it any other way… life is so much better sober… the impossible becomes possible, well done you!

      • @embracingsober One of favorite things about this space is hearing I’m not alone in my thinking ! So thank you for sharing that. Now that a month has passed, the next doesn’t seem daunting, I’m coming to terms with the truth that this sober-living is not temporary x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @soberdaisy 30 days is massive ! It’s so cool reading how much you’re enjoying the change. I too worry that I’ll forget how bad it got and get complacent, that’s what makes this space so good, staying connected and reminded x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @jujubee 🙂

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @Chaves So relatable !

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    A huge thank you to all of the above who replied to my last post, your kind words means so so much ! x

  • angiex posted an update 4 months ago

    When I reflect on my state of mind and the wreck that was my body on Day One, I’m amazed to be celebrating twenty-two days of sober-living, twenty-two days of not harming myself with alcohol and the self-hate that floods me when I find myself gulping wine from hidden bottles so not to alarm family of the time and amount needed. Truth is I don’t need it. Truth is the benefits of having stopped drinking are already massive at just twenty-two days. A huge welcome to all the newbies x

    • Ro replied 4 months ago

      Well done you- keep up the great- work you deserve the freedom 🙂

    • Congrats on 22 days, sounds like some amazing benefits already! Well done xx

    • 22 days and already such a big difference in your mindset so happy for you it will only get better . xx

    • the self-hate is the worst, @angiex Hence my ‘name’ here is Lightness – the only way I could describe how I felt after a month AF, without all that self-loathing weighing me down. Amazing job, keep going, it gets better.

    • Sometimes I think about all the extra time I have now that I don’t constantly berate myself for having a drinking problem. That was a lot of wasted time. 22 days is a big accomplishment!

    • Fantastic @angiex it’s amazing how much better we do without it that’s for sure.

    • Awesome 👍. Keep up the fab work ❤️

    • 3 weeks and 1 day! Awesome work! 6 more days and you’ve got a whole month under your belt … and it just keeps getting better – Guaranteed goodness.

  • angiex posted an update 4 months, 1 week ago

    Day 12 https://sobernotesbyangie.blogspot.com/
    I hope its not annoying to people here that I copy links to my Sober Notes blog, saves me having the compete text copied in full to two places, this LS community and writing are both so helpful to me during these early days !! What are the activities you, anybody, are finding helpful to maintain your sobriety ? x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    @Sober4real yes!! x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    @malibustacey …”maintaining direction” I like that, reminds me that it’s a moving journey x

  • angiex posted an update 4 months, 1 week ago

    Day 12 here. Feeling low but know that drinking will only make me feel lower once the escape has swapped out for a hangover. So just hunkering down, being more a lurker than a poster for now. A big welcome to all new members x

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    @Marie2 yes ! A great tool when the ww gets loud, to just focus on what I’ll feel tomorrow if I cave 🙂

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Hi @Marie2 welcome 🙂

  • angiex posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    @soberdaisy I hear you ! Day 10 here & as much as I’m loving the benefits already noticeable,
    I’m beginning to crave the escape that wine gives. So i’m reminding myself how drinking will only result in my feeling like absolute shit tomorrow & probably just set off a binge where I become unsafe again… what are your “why’s” to keep
    You sober today ?

    • Tell the WW to bugger off and find yourself a nice glass of soda and lime or tonic water (I like diet tonic water) with heaps of ice. Focus on how amazing you will feel tomorrow morning that you didn’t listen to WW.

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