I'm a 40 year old mother of two girls and it is time to stop the evening cocktails and weekend binges. As I update this I am 5 days in and am realizing this is going to be harder than I thought and a daily commitment on my end if I am going to be successful. 20 years of habits don't change overnight.
Revised 6/28/17: I made it 29 days and then tried to moderate for 31 days and now I'm back to day 1. I woke up today with a hangover after book club and realized I am on a path right back to where I was. Moderation isn't working. For 29 days I got a glimpse of how healthy I felt when I wasn't pouring poison into my body and I want to feel that way all the time.
Revised 1/1/2018: I made it 150 days and then went to dinner with friends and wasn't strong enough to order a non-alcoholic beverage at dinner. I ended up drinking 3 cocktails. My new day one is November 25th, 2017. I learned that I need to embrace this alcohol free life in order to be successful at it. I don't need to be loud about it but I do need to be proud of it. I am now 37 days and made it through the holidays with a lot of practice socializing alcohol free. I am looking forward to updating this next year when I am at 400 days sober!
@tipsytoegal, I am so glad that you have left this man and are not with him anymore. Also glad you had an opportunity to talk to some friends who love you. Please know that you are a child of God loved beyond measure and nothing you do or say will ever change Gods love for you. Hugs to you xoxoxo
Hi Everyone! I spent a lot of time yesterday reading through my anxiety workbook and another book titled ‘The Body Keeps Score’ that was recommended to me. They both are completely fascinating to me. Because I have spent my whole live avoiding my past and disassociating it really is quite interesting to start digging into why I have some of the…[Read more]
Morning @amy , sounds like a full weekend ahead and great plan for the family gathering. Fun!! So nice when you can go and talk to people and catch up on their lives, and then leave, and have nothing to do with the booze part, right? When I was drinking I would have seen that kind of gathering as an opportunity to drink as much wine as I could…[Read more]
Hi @amy well done for doing whats best for you… arriving late and leaving early. I also find 4 hours is my cutoff time… after that I just feel tired of being with people. I like socialising, but 4 hours is plenty.
That book, the body keeps the score, is one that I also have on my kindle to read at some point. Its on our reading list at…[Read more]
So glad you had a nice time at your book club @freedom1025!! I’m sorry to hear about how crazy busy work has been for you and the amount of stress that you have been under. Hopefully you will be able to take some time off for the upcoming holidays? xo
Yes, keep trying, you can do this @camla3126! You have identified what you feel and what happens in your brain, that is the first step. Maybe you can use imagery to walk yourself through that time that you know will come where your brain tells you that it wants a drink and imagine yourself making a different choice. Do that over and over again…[Read more]
Awesome @nixon35!! Weekends can be tough, but each time you get through a weekend you are building those sober muscles and retraining your brain to make different healthier choices. Stock up on lots of alcohol free beverages. My favorite in the beginning was cranberry juice in a wine glass. I still felt celebratory but wasn’t putting poison…[Read more]
I understand why you might feel ashamed, but please don’t put that on yourself. Alcohol is cunning and slippery and weasels it’s way into our lives and sets up shop in our brains. We are the cool ones that buck society and are taking care of our bodies by no longer putting poison into it. You do not have to tell anyone anything you are not…[Read more]
Oh, I’m sorry to hear that she relapsed. This is a tough disease and for many of us we had quite a few day 1’s. I think just being supportive to your sister and letting her know that you are there for her will mean a lot. xo
thank you, Amy. So frustrating. I’ve been drinking almost every day for the past 10 years and just a few days ago, I said to myself that “I’m done.” I don’t want the following anymore: dry skin, tiredness, lethargy, bags under my eyes, low libido, arguments with my husband (we have an otherwise awesome relationship), weight gain, headaches,…[Read more]
@sober4real What does “addiction education” consist of? Do the treatment centers focus on the issues underlying why the person started drinking in the first place? Just trying to understand what a typical day would be like in a center. thanks
@becc the curriculum for each one is different but in general NO. In one on one sessions with their counselors which sadly only once a week they may focus on underlying issues with the client but most of the time they are in groups which focus on alcohol and drug education. A typical day for inpatient would be group, lunch, writing, see your…[Read more]
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