• Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 9 hours ago

    yes. it’s sure that SAD time of year. We’re in the States and its 42degrees at the moment so the total other end of the extreme. 951 is bloody fantastic. xxx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 9 hours ago

    soft drinks. chocolate. dog walking. steak. perfect. who needs booze to improve that! enjoy your weekend.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 9 hours ago

    Congrats on 40 days – awesome!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 19 hours ago

    cool, I’ll see if we have time. can’t be hotter than Vegas, surely (42degrees today). my partners eying up good BBQ and music bars.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 19 hours ago

    After you posted this I asked the very next restaurant (only a chain restaurant, but still) if they had any mocktails and they told me their list of sodas. at least I get ‘bottomless’ diet cokes as most of these place!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 19 hours ago

    too true

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    I agree with @janus2. don’t read the side effects, I’m in the States on holiday at the moment and I can’t believe anyone takes medication here – the ads are a few seconds of benefits then a diatribe of side effects! I ended up a supervised medical detox in NZ (basically a nurse comes round every day and gives you some diazepam which is great for withdrawals – heavy dose in first couple of days and then drops write off). I don’t know if your doctor would prescribe that – but it is what is used to manage risk of bad withdrawals – seizures etc – in NZ, usually have to be medically supervised though.

    • JB.OB replied 1 week ago

      pharmacist gave me the MedSafe, which I guess is their job. Yes, I agree, reading them scares the shyte out of one so prob not a good idea. Just that I generally have problems with most medications. Taking Ativan (lorazepam) for anxiety which I understand can also help with seizures, but they are addictive so have to be wary of that. I have another appointment with the doctor today to try and discuss things in more detail as I felt he fobbed me off a bit the other day. Thanks for your comments, I really appreciate that.

    • @Agent99 as an American, your post about the US and medication made me giggle. It’s ridiculous, isn’t it!? I don’t take any medications, but I always find it very ironic when ads are like, “take this and you’ll never have a migraine again! You’ll just have diarrhea, bloating, heartburn, blurred vision, depression and thoughts of suicide instead, probably!” (shaking my head)

      • JB.OB replied 1 week ago

        We never get ads like that here in NZ… we get given medsafe sheets and other info sometimes with our prescriptions and that’s bad enough lol…. yes, soooo many possible side effects from medication its scary… but I guess they have to cover their butts and put across the worse case scenario… i shake my head when you are prescribed meds for something and your dr knows you already suffer from eg, anxiety and it says in the medsafe info, could make anxiety worse… i mean WTF lol???

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    I don’t know why, but I experienced that a lot too. I would try and lie in bed and just absorb a very grateful feeling that I hadn’t actually drunk. maybe need to be drinking a bit more water or taking vitamins? I went through a medical detox and they prescribed vitamins because often we strip ourselves of some of them (Bs? I can’t remember which ones) when we drink. Well done on 3 weeks sober!.

  • Agent99 posted an update 1 week ago

    Well here I am in the States, enjoying a fantastic AF holiday. Started in San Fran for a few nights being very touristy – Alcatraz, Golden Gate bridge, Cable Cars, etc. drove down the Pacific Coast Highway (beautiful!) and we are in Vegas for a 3 nights. next few nights driving a big loop round the Grand Canyon – Zion National Park, Page, Sedona – and then flying down to Austin.

    I won’t lie – plenty of triggering moments – we’re eating out a lot and that drinks menu is getting handed to me a lot – and particularly on The Strip where everyone’s got a drink in hand, often a mini yardglass!. just trying to be very present when I have that ‘missing out’ feeling and be grateful that I’m not missing out on any of this experience in a haze or hungover.

    Take care everyone. Kia Kaha. xx

    • jmtn replied 1 week ago

      Sounds like a fun trip! Great job on staying strong. Enjoy your holiday! I’ve had a few camping trips AF now, but not a true holiday. I can imagine the challenges, but there are so many benefits!!! xo

    • Ro replied 1 week ago

      How cool! Don’t forget you’re not missing out on anything, it’s all a trick in your mind. Hope you can share some more of your trip if you get the chance-love to hear what it’s like in Austin. Have fun 🙂 Safe travels

    • Good work hon keep going xxx

    • I dined with 11 others every night in Italy on the Intrepid tour and they were all drinking and talking about the wine in depth. I felt proud, not left out. I honestly felt like the smartest one in the bunch, whatever they might have thought of me! I felt I was the only one who’d woken up. Enjoy your cool holiday. Clarity is the new black! Xx

    • Mrs D replied 1 week ago

      hopefully American can provide you with some delicious mocktails etc? Sounds like an amazing trip! x

      • After you posted this I asked the very next restaurant (only a chain restaurant, but still) if they had any mocktails and they told me their list of sodas. at least I get ‘bottomless’ diet cokes as most of these place!

    • Really so much more fun to vacation and travel alcohol free – I hope you really enjoyed everything CA has to offer, it’s a beautiful place!!

    • Hey! I live in Austin! Many good places to eat here…hopefully it won’t be too hot. If it is, definitely go to Barton Springs.

      • cool, I’ll see if we have time. can’t be hotter than Vegas, surely (42degrees today). my partners eying up good BBQ and music bars.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Oh f%$ing hell @Janus2. I’m so sorry you’re in so much pain. Call Lizzi!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    the colder weather definitely doesn’t help in the motivation to get out for exercise! but like you, I’m always so glad I do. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    jigsaw puzzles worked for me. quite a ‘mindful’ activity. I’d never really gotten into them before but it seemed to give me something to focus on initially. the nights seemed so long once I wasn’t drinking them away.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    it will happen as long as you don’t drink. I don’t know if you’ve heard the stray cat analogy for cravings – if you feed them they come back more often – if you cut them off totally they’ll eventually go away (actually now that I’ve written that down I’m not sure I like it any more – poor cat!)

    • Haha. Very true. I know Allen Carr in his quit smoking book says ‘if you don’t feed the monster it will die’, your cat analogy reminded me. Thank you!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    good on you. what is true is that if you did drink that secret bottle you would regret it tomorrow and if you don’t you will wake up feeling grateful.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    what a bloody adventure – go on, eat something crazy tomorrow!.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh wonderful! I just updated my profile pic and posted a ‘three year nearly-soberversary’ update but I can’t see them online. I hope they appear at some stage! you’ve been a big part of my journey and I thank you.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Oh that is fantastic. I’m so happy with you and its been very special sharing the journey with you. I’m bummed I can’t get to the next ChCh gathering but I do get to Christchurch a bit for work this year so maybe I’ll come and visit your pub sometime!.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    thinking of you @mrs-d. I’m going to go and hug my family right now. (the 16yo boy will think I’m weird but he already does). xxxx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    well done on friday night!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    I hear you. I’m pretty sucky at moderating too!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    clearly I’ve missed too much by not being here regularly, @prudence. Cripes, what did he do to irritate you? Must have been pretty bad because all those positive things you listed sound amazing!!!

    I hope you are still enjoying the sun. it is POURING here right now, but we sure need the rain. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    you’re doing it!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    sober warriors are SISU (finnish word).

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    yes it’s pretty hard to confront thoughts like that. the booze was pretty handy for burying any emotion you didn’t want to deal with. hope you are able to find some level of comfort in being able to sitting and acception your feelings. this too shall pass xxx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    fan bloody tastic!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    maybe we should make our next LS gathering there @janus2!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Good luck with the job 🙂

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    yes! it makes sense to all of us who spent a good deal of time burying life in alcohol. you’ve got this. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    so many ‘little white lie’ options if you don’t feel ready to talk and if people ask you why you’re not drinking (eg: a medication you’re taking, a nutritional detox, etc).

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m going to remember that – every sober day is a miracle. love it.

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    so good to hear you’re doing well xxx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    sorry! I was really keen when it was the weekend prior but I can’t make that weekend. bummer!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 5 months ago

    cool!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    nope you can’t fix everything but sounds like you’re being a good friend. have a great day yourself. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Hi Prudence. so good to hear you are ‘in gear on all levels’! cripes, if only I was. I’ll keep an eye out for details about the weekend – we have something booked but it may not be happening. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Merry Christmas @timidwarrior !

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 7 months ago

    It was very cool to meet @timidwarrior and @sonicgirl and to see you other lot again. Xxx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 7 months ago

    What’s to be irritated about? You won’t be hungover tomorrow! And 7 yr olds are great – better than hanging out with my 16 yr old son who is going through the non-verbal grunting stage!!!

  • Agent99 posted an update 7 months, 1 week ago

    Just checking into the new site at last! It has been a long and fraught year and I am looking forward to a re-set for 2019. But before that I am looking forward to our Auckland catchup on Saturday-thanks for organising @enzedgirl 😍

  • Agent99 posted an update 8 months, 1 week ago

    Looking forward to our Christmas catchup in Auckland on 15 dec. Hope to meet some new people! (Not that I’m sick of the old ones

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Exciting

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    It sounds like you are going great! I was just popping my nose in here looking for a familiar name. Have an awesome time on the West Coast. Xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    I’d be in !

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 10 months, 2 weeks ago

    Both good and sad news in there @enzedgirl. Congratulations for the first part. I’ve said it here before and I’ll say it again … you are awesome xxx000

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Buggar. Tough times. Take care of yourself. Xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m still lurking around! Congrats on Day 99 – well done you. Xx

  • Agent99 posted an update 11 months ago

    Ah Monday morning. Hello to you. Always less painful to see you when I’m sober and hangover-free! Happy week everyone. Xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Great question @treehugger. I’ve been wondering the same thing with my son being nearly 16 and some of his friends are starting to drink. The responses were helpful. Let us know how the talk goes, if you have it!

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Wow, you sound in a great place. Xx

    • Bit of a knee jerk from the previous weekend I think @agent99. Our weather has been very cold and wet for a while so a good dose of sunshine helped too. xx

  • Agent99 posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Oh boy. No beer. No coffee. Enjoy your water! At least you made it to the end of the game unlike the boozers that needed to find their next drink!

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