Well here I am 470 days sober & at least $8000 richer. I never dreamed I could do this. I do still find it difficult some days & wish I could just have 1 vodka or 2 wines. Not worth the risk for me so nothing is my best option. The best part of my 470 days is - Monday we are getting new carpet through out the house. Cost of that is $9500 so I feel I have well earned the treat. I am proud of myself as all of you out there is LS land should be. The support is great as I have found that if you are not nor have been a big drinker it is hard to understand how others could be. I am currently in a good place & hope to keep it that way
Every morning I promise I will not drink wine or vodka again. I did dry July 2015 & 2016 so I know I can do it. Now that I am retired I just find it ' so easy' to' open the bottle. ' I know I will feel much better without the wine & at night I am much nicer company - staying awake . I go to bed & literally pass out then at about midnight I think it is time to get up again & toss around for the rest of the night. Have tried to discuss with husband but he is a person that goes around with blinkers on & his will power is much stronger than mine. He say nothing about my drinking so I have free reign. He would have no idea how much it is costing, so therefore he is no support . Not sure he would notice/comment when I stop. I want to be proud of myself. Also now on a limited income, can't be spending our good savings on wine. I'm otherwise fit & healthy for my age (70 this year), keep very active & have great friends.
Friday 13 January 2017 I finally confessed to the doctor & now have some help with drugs. 2 days in & no thoughts of a wine. Long may it continue. I have promised myself a pedicure every month I'm off the bottle. Very supportive doctor also
Go you. 21 days is great. Just one day at a time was my theory & so far it has worked. I still take myself off to bed early to avoid staying up alone (which was often the time I would scull another couple (at least) of very strong vodkas). I love going to bed & the feeling that I have won another day (802 in fact). Tomorrow sure is another day.
How about volunteering. My husband & I volunteer for Hospice 2 days a week each. It is so satisfying when I get home each day & I am with like minded people.
I also joined a gym where I am the ‘gym Nana’ . Love being around people younger than me & hearing all about their lives as they raise young families etc.
I do think that we sometimes have…[Read more]
Well done getting 2 days under your belt. Re direct those thoughts to day 3. Each minute, each hour is closer to getting day 3 done & dusted & moving on to day 4.
You can do this, for you.
Something that worked for me was getting through the day & focusing on going to bed. That then took 10+ hours out of the day. When I make the bed each morning…[Read more]
Well done Chordaroy. When you wake up from that lovely AF sleep, concentrate on Day 2 & then celebrate the end of that day & sleep through till Day 3. The days will count up & before you know you will be feeling so great you will have all new thoughts for each day & wonder why you had not done this sooner. Good luck
Hey no one is ‘useless’ in life. We all have a purpose & that includes you. You are obviously a skilled tradesman at what you do. Maybe set yourself the goal of one day at a time. The future is a very big space so just the next 24 hours is what is important right now. Good luck. you have come to the right place as no one is judgemental here. We…[Read more]
OMG, those of you in NZ. I have just finished watching the Dr Phil show about 2 alcoholic young parents. All I can say is thank the lord for being sober. I think that is worst alcoholics I have ever seen. My jaw is still dropped from watching
I thought i was bad 731 days ago but my journey was nothing after watching that show. Dr Phil offered them…[Read more]
I am so proud of my self today & as my husband doesn’t really do praise I thought I would boast here amongst my LS friends. 720 days since alcohol passed my lips. I cannot believe it. Never, never, never would I have thought this day possible 2 years ago.
I was/am an alcoholic who drank for 36+ years. It was getting worse, I was drinking more &…[Read more]
Congratulations. Well done to you. I support your comments completely & agree 100%. I am just 14 days short of 2 years & yes it is so nice to wake up bright eyed & bushy tailed. I’m 71 & feel better than I ever have in the past 35 years. Keep up the great work on your self for yourself. We are important & we musn’t forget that
Mrs D I think you are amazing & you are the reason & motivation that I am now 693 days sober & at the very least, $11880 better off. That is only the $$ record of what I would drink at home. So I would reckon the savings could be be nearer $13/14,000.
On reading your book I felt like you wrote my life story & life style. Hence here I am a much…[Read more]
Hi Tim, my experience of AA is also not good, hence it didn’t work for me. My reality was a hangover – something I had not had in years. I had been drinking too much for at least 35 years. Went to the doctor & she was very supportive & prescribed Antabuse & encouraged counselling. I did both & 651 days later I’m very proud to say I have not had a…[Read more]
Don’t hate yourself Juliette. You are a good person who at least is acknowledging an event in their life they are not happy with. Put your slip up behind you & focus on a new day & at the end of that day focus on the next new day ahead. You deserve better so don’t beat yourself up. Beat yourself up if you make the same slip up again. One day at a…[Read more]
One day at a time – that was what has got me through the past 531 days.
After suffering a hangover (which I rarely did) I decided I had to do something for ‘me’
I took a big breath & went to the doctor to make my confessions. She was wonderful & so supportive & understanding. I was prescribed Antabuse. I had heard the terrible outcomes if you…[Read more]
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