Once again here I am going on about brain re-training. It is VITAL! It is CRUCIAL! It is HUGELY INSTRUMENTAL in helping us get to a happy sober place! That is – not miserable being a non-drinker.. delighted as fuck that we’re not hooked on that shit any more and foolishly believing a whole lot of bullshit about it’s supposed benefits.
So here’s another exercise .. the ‘I deserve it’ exercise. Once again with all brain re-training it involves challenging hard-wired beliefs, forcing ourselves to see the truth behind certain actions, and re-framing our thinking to reflect the truth and the reality which we so desire.
Thought: I deserve this icy cold class of Chardonnay because I’ve been bloody busy all day working my arse off.
Challenge: Why do you ‘deserve’ to drink a liquid that will potentially cause you guilt, misery and physical ills?
New reality: I deserve this tall glass of fizzy water, ice cubes, slices of cucumber, and a squeeze of lemon because I’ve worked hard all day and I want to acknowledge that fact by creating a refreshing drink that will actually refresh me.
Thought: I deserve this Gin & Tonic because I’m sick of dealing with someone else’s emotional shit.
Challenge: Why do you ‘deserve’ to drink a liquid that will blur your brain and disconnect you from your feelings?
New reality: I deserve this orange-ginger mocktail because I’ve had a guts full of everyone else’s emotional shit and I’m being brave and amazing in dealing with my own shit by getting sober.
Thought: I deserve to open this second bottle of wine late in the evening because I feel lousy – I have all day – and this wine is the only thing that’s going to make me feel better.
Challenge: How is drinking crap-loads of wine possibly going to make your lousy feeling go away? It’ll still be there when you sober up but probably with a new layer of guilt and misery added on top.
New Reality: I deserve this mug of chamomile tea because I feel lousy and I want to soothe myself before bed and try to ensure I’ll get a good nights sleep because now I’m sober I know that when I’m tired everything is harder to manage.
Thought: I deserve this pint of beer because my life sucks, I’ve already ruined it by drinking too much too often, and to change things now is impossible so I might as well just keep on going.
Challenge: WHO SAYS IT’S NOT POSSIBLE TO CHANGE?????????!!!!!!!!!
New reality: I deserve this pint of lemon, lime & bitters because despite my regrets at having drunk too much too often I believe that things can change, I have faith that my future will be different than my past and I’ve heard that all the cool people are sober nowadays.
Ain’t that the truth…
Love, Mrs D xxx