- Negative emotions suck and cause discomfort, but sitting with them and feeling them 100% in the raw helps immensley in understanding them and getting over them quicker.
- I am a very watery person and used to say that sadness was my least favourite emotion. But nowdays I find sadness intimate and tender and a good excuse to be kind to myself.
- Powerful positive emotions like pure elation or overwhelming joy don't come often, but when they do it feels soooo good (way better than drunk happy emotions).
- It's really important to recognise when things aren't particularly bad or good but just trucking along nicely. Notice the ordinary.
- Life is not a party all of the time nor should it be. Parites and energetic times are great, but we need the quiet times in between as well.
- Uplifting music can brighten any day. Remember to play it when you're feeling stuck, bonus points if you do a kitchen boogie!
- Speaking of moving your body, it's vital. If I let too many days go when I'm doing nothing but sitting around I feel blah. Pick your movement - gentle, vigorous, slow, fast, indoors, outdoors, whatever you like. It helps.
- Yoga is not overrated. It's very, very lovely.
- I love dancing! Particularly with props (e.g. glow sticks, ribbons).
- Owning a dog changes your life for the better in numerous ways. I'm sure cats to the same thing. Pets are good for humans.
- Getting 8 uninterrupted hours of sleep most nights is FREAKING AMAZING!! I regularly wake up after a monster night's sleep and marvel at how good it feels.
- Owning your truth is empowering and brave and no-one judges you harshly for admitting your struggles.
- It is entirely possible to live a full, fun life without touching alcohol ever. Believe it.
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13 things I have discovered in sobriety
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Tonight’s Witching Hour..
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Brilliantly named ‘Arsenic Hour’ by member ‘mrsmorrison’ yesterday. How’s everyone going with it today? Remember to push your thinking...
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Sobriety is…
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Boozing is living a wild, crazy, blurry, detached and numbed-out life that is sometimes fun and sometimes sad and...
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A 21st Party (Guest post from @morgan)
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Lovely long-time member @morgan travelled to Wellington recently to attend a 21st party. She stayed at her elderly Aunt’s house...
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Things I work on in recovery…
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These are some of the things that I do to ‘work’ at my recovery, the things that keep me...
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Happy, proud and satisfied
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I had one of those classic ‘couldn’t do this if I was still boozing’ parenting moments the other day....
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We didn’t know we were missing…
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Someone wrote in the Members Feed recently; "this sober lark is just the best thing ever". These sorts of...
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A Powerful Eulogy (Guest Post)
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A lovely man who worked in the addiction sector here in New Zealand passed away recently. His name was David...
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Re-frame the image
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Member @Zentient wrote this in the members feed a couple of days ago… “Trigger! And I don’t mean Roy...
I l❤️Ve this list! It would be interesting to create a reader generated list of joyful discoveries/epiphanies we have unearthed during our awakenings!!
What a beautiful truthful list. Thanks for sharing it, such a good reminder of all the positive elements contained in an alcohol free life.
The beautiful confident calm in this post is lovely. Makes me want to take up yoga again. : ) Thank-you Mrs. D for being such an inspiring and down-to-earth guide and friend to all here! xo